Helping many men and women in dating
they lead them to conflicts and divorces.
To be objective, the social networks themselves are not guilty of this, but those who enjoys themselves. Or let's say differently: violates the safety code when using social networking features in the presence of family life. Everything is as when contacting the ordinary fishing network: you can and need to fish, but the unlucky fisherman himself can get caught in its own networks, get confused and drown. To become clear what I am talking about, I will give only a few stories from the practice of work.
History 1.
A man, 38 years old, addressed me for advice. The man was married for ten years, had a son for eight years. In general, I was pleased with my wife, but its level of intimate activity was insufficient. Once he saw that a certain girl from a completely different region of the country came on his page. A man from curiosity went to her, the acquaintance began, then the relationship. A few weeks later, the hot correspondence has come to virtual sex on Skype. Of course, from this point in time, the men's tablet turned out to be stolen from his wife, which was explained by them the need to protect the gadget from the child.
Three months later, the girl suggested a man to pay her three hundred thousand rubles, otherwise it is a swift video and audio record of their virtual sex and screenshots of his wife's love correspondence and leadership. A man refused and stopped communicating with a fatal girl, thinking that everything would cost. However, the wife in fact was all expensive, after which the explosion of emotions happened at home, smelling a divorce. Fortunately, the spouses I managed to reconcile. First of all, due to the fact that there were already many dozen in practice for examples of such stories.
History 2.
The husband of one girl worked a lot, so the girl went to Turkey together with her mother, sister and child. There, for some reason she met an animator-alien, continued to communicate with him on social networks after returning. When he began to make a girl frivolous hints, she put it in a blacklist. However, a man was offended and decided to punish the girl. Having at its disposal photographs downloaded from the girl's photo from the hotel, while in it and having the opportunity to photograph yourself in his interiors, the animator asked his friend - the hotel photographer to make several such photomontasters, wherever he hugs with someone else's wife. I have seen these photos: Believe me - they looked more than convincing.
Then the animator contacted the girl on the mobile phone, asked to open the profile to send photos. The girl saw them and slaughter. Animator asked from a girl or regular Skype sex, or three thousand dollars, otherwise the photo data will see a husband. As a result, the husband did see the photo data, but with the filing of his wife herself, which I convinced to give up my husband myself. The family in this case was preserved, but they suffered and all her members were pronounced, as you understand, a lot.
History 3.
The girl, thirty-two years old, was married for only three years. All this time, she actively discussed her husband and their family life in social networks with their friends. She did not give her reason to suspect her in treason, but the husband once decided to find out for himself why she informed him the wrong password from his account. Sewing the correct combination, he read the entire correspondence of his wife, where he was very hijling what his wife compares his bed behavior with the behavior of her former men. The spouse counted all this for himself offensive, flared and submitted for divorce. This couple appealed to me after the divorce decorated. I managed to convince former partners to try everything first. But without saving the details of their marriage in social networks.
History 4.
One wife saw in the tape that her husband set like a photo of some beautiful girl from their city. My wife, for some reason decided to write this girl in a personal, why this page puts on its own photos on a semi-naked form. The girl was sincerely outraged, why some unknown to her the wife of a completely unknown man teaches her that and how to place her on her own page. She take, and answer the wife that she is not just a girl - and her husband's mistress. Of course, the girl could not confirm this, since she did not really know her husband's husband, nor his cell phone number, no place of work, no car, etc. However, she sowed doubts about his wife's head, wrote her husband, what his wife is a fool, and then put both spouses blacklisted, restricting access.
A giant scandal broke out in the family. The wife of Rada and Metal, the husband did not understand what was going on. Spouses came to me before applying for divorce. Fortunately, when I wrote a girl from my face, she showed goodness and came into contact. The situation cleared up, everyone was reconciled. Moreover, the wife apologized and in front of her and in front of her husband, and her husband in front of his wife and in front of the girl.
History 5.
The guy and the girl once, more than three years, they met on a specialized dating site. Then they loved each other and began to live together. Both partners agreed to retire from the site. After two years of civil marriage, a man made a girl a sentence. However, a week after the application was submitted to the registry office, a friend of a man told him that his profile of his girl was still on a dating site. The guy demanded an explanation, the girl said that he just forgot. But thanks to a friend, it turned out that the girl sometimes came to the site, although no new acquaintances produced. This couple, unfortunately, did not become family.
History 6.
One jealous husband demanded that she delete it from among his friends on social networks of all men. The wife considered it a humiliating, on the contrary, began to increase their number in his friends. The husband also began to invite girls from the virtual space to his friends. Plus both spouses gave their accounts from each other. The atmosphere in the family became oppressive, intimate life stopped, the pair was only the presence of a child. When both of the spouses have already begun to build relationships with some alternative partners from among their friends-girlfriends, they have enough common sense to dwell on the edge of the divorce and seek advice. Family life was restored, but friends and friends had to sacrifice.
History 7.
One wife was so offended by her husband for refused to exhibit wedding photos from his wife and a photo with a child who left him to his mother. The spouse rightly considered that the conscious lack of family photographs is evidence that her husband is ready for flirting on social networks. Husband and wife lived half a year apart, after which the wife filed for a divorce. Only after that the husband came to himself and made the necessary steps to reconciliation.
Protecting the secrets of your life on the Internet from loved ones and relatives,
we often turn them for themselves in distant and strangers.
Asks: Is such behavior with a happy family life compatible? Probably, nevertheless, no. And in general, remember:
From the monitors of our computers on us often look
our future troubles and problems. We joyfully wink.
From here a few useful tips:
"Husband and wife are obliged to stop appearing on those sites that position themselves as sites for love and intimate dating, remove themselves from them if they were registered there.
- Husband and wife must definitely put wedding and family photos on their personal pages, photo children, and in status and personal data, be sure to indicate that they live families.
- Spouses have a complete right to see what and to whom they write their "half" on the Internet. Therefore, to close your files when you approach your half, I definitely do not advise.
- Spouses are obliged to provide each other passwords from their social network pages.
- Spouses must agree that they will not take into friends in the social networks of persons of the opposite sex without the consent of the partner.
- Spouses have no right to exhibit high assessments to the opposite sex, like them, flirt with them.
- Spouses should not write angry letters from themselves with whom to correspond with their "half". First, it should be clarified to the end.
- Husband and wife can make one profile on the social network for two.
- Spouses should not conduct personal correspondence with unfamiliar people, especially on intimate themes, send their photos.
- Spouses should not be discussed by the details of his family life on the Internet.
Practice shows that following this non-slip rules will noticeably reduce the likelihood of Internet conflicts in your family.
How social networks destroy your life
Meeting classmates
Remember how your heart stopped when the husband went to the evening of meeting classmates or classmates. Suddenly he will meet a woman there, in love with, or the one that was in love with him, have their own feelings break out and relationships will be born? And after all, some wives do not wonder this development of events. There were cases when the meeting of the spouse with the first love turned the life of the family. But before she could have happened, only if both former classmates deigned to come to the meeting. And now find a person from the past, wherever he lives, it is possible through the network: enough to enter the Internet.
Irina, 48 years old, shares his story: "I started a page in" Odnoklassniki "to find a student girlfriend, which left for distribution to Siberia and was lost there. My husband liked the idea, he began to search for a network of his friends, fellow soldiers and members of their children's hockey team, and found a girl from a parallel class, which was in love with his school. That told him a bunch of compliments, threw pleasant school memories, and when it was in our city on a business trip, he suggested to meet. From that moment on, our family life "gave the crack", and soon ended at all ".
You can find many such stories on the network, but statistics argue that only 5% of virtual dating or close communication with old familiar end with new relationships.
Sepament dependent
There is time, new opportunities appear every day. No longer needed a computer, enough smartphone, and communicate with new or old friends, you can almost from the married bed. According to statistics, already 30% of spouses conflict due to excessive passion for one side by social networks at least once a week, and 17% - every day.
At the same time, the passion of social networks is adversely affected not only for marriage, but also on a person as a person. He has a relationship with reality. What he could not achieve in his life, he begins to look in someone else's. And although the information and photographs in the networks are most often embellished, a person begins to lose self-confidence, feels his inconsistency, is divided into values \u200b\u200band principles. He wants to change something in his life, and sometimes to change the family easier than the work.
Why ask yourself questions: "What can I change in my family's life? In itself? What can I do for loved ones and expensive me? ", - When it is easier to start communicating with strangers and come up with a new life, successful, interesting, trouble-free. After all, they still will not recognize the truth, and if you find out and stop communicating, what about? You can find new acquaintances.
"Pink glasses"
And if, looking at the luxurious beauties in the search for beloved, and young cute millionairers who are looking for their second half, any reasonable person will laugh, then former classmates, classmates, colleagues with the past work - quite another thing: they are real, unaduman. You can remember the interesting moments of the last happy life. Happy at least because it was youth, complete hopes and faith in yourself.
A man plunges into youthful romantic relationships and begins to look at the world through rose glasses, deliberately resurrecting emotions that have long survived. And in these romantic emotions it is so nice to exist that it seems to be a change of life worth it and you can start another life at any time, which means that another love is needed.
In networks, it is much easier to build relationships than in life. Do not go anywhere on a date, lead a lady in a movie or restaurant, give her flowers and make gifts. You can put yourself in the very advantageous light, how much you like to think about every word and the phrase before you write, and then re-read and correct - before sending.
As a result, such communication is a destroyed family, while the possibility of creating a new amount is an insignificant percentage. And the evidence of the infidelity abandoned wife will find many in the network. According to statistics, in 60% of the broken-produced processes, one or other information and photos found on networks appear.
Reason for divorce
What kind of information hoped from the network can be a reason to start the process? As, for example, you can not suspect a husband in the desire to find yourself a new wife or at least a mistress if a married man has a "free search" status on the network, and there is not a single photo with family and children on the page. If the main mass of the husband's friends make up unfamiliar women with whom he flirt on his page, making them obscene offers.
How not to get angry and not to start looking for evilience, if the husband turns the site page, as soon as a wife appears on the horizon, and it is impossible to enter his account, because he suddenly put a password on him? But for some there are pages in several social networks, often registered under the nickname and without a photo in PM. From such a page you can generally conduct a rampant virtual life.
But if the wife doesn't get to all these tricks, the divorce is inevitable, and not even because of the treason, which, most likely, was not, and because of the loss of trust. It is impossible to live with a person who cease to believe.
Old good blackmail
Often the reason for the divorce becomes the most common blackmail. In the networks are full of funerals and sweatshirts who seem to be accidentally entering the page of an unfamiliar person and it is not clear for what reason they are shedding to his friends. Having in a new acquaintance, you can face very large troubles after a while.
A new familiar selection of very candid photos, asks to put likes like them and comment on them, asking his photos in response, then he offers a personal meeting. After a while it disappears, and then it appears to set the requirements: the wife will receive all the correspondence, photographs, allegedly testifying to love communications, although people could not even meet.
It is clear that it will be blackmail, but the wonderful features of photoshop are known to everyone. If a man has a significant job since the fraudar, it is threatened to send all the supposedly assembled kit and on the working server. By the way, so get into the paws of scammers can a married woman who will begin to communicate with an interesting person. Why do scams usually want, it is clear - money. But often, even receiving money, they do not stop and ... destroy the family.
Lawyers argue that every year affairs about such fraud is becoming more and more, and this, provided that no every person agrees to make it on people and appeal to the judiciary.
Networks are not to blame
On the other hand, it is impossible to pour everything on the social network. An adult is not a lamb so that it was so easy to lead from the family, especially if he is happy in this family. This is an axiom of relationship. So, not only social networks are to blame, they simply had problems in the family. And everyone knows that breaking easier than to build or even repair. A person begins to look for new acquaintances, it is attracted by new sensations and relationships in the following cases:
- Freshness is lost in older, and new let's give bright impressions that are forced to fly on the wings of love.
- Marriage turns into habit and debt, and I want pleasure and romance.
- The Internet is full of semi-nailed sexual beauties, and at home the wife, changed after work in comfortable home clothes and removed makeup, does not come with them any comparison.
- Intimate life turned into a routine, because the hormonal boom has already passed. And if the spouses have enough fantasy and the routine can not be called, it spoils accessibility. Want? Received. Men are needed hunting and chase - the interval between the emergence of desire and his satisfaction;
- The wife gives back to the eternal feminine desire to make a perfect husband "of what was."
So it turns out that there are not so many social networks in the rupture of relations as the problem has accumulated in the family. Networks only gave an impetus to the breakdown of the family, facilitated and accelerated the possibility of finding new love.
Rules of behavior and security in social networks
Family psychologists and lawyers predict the increase in divorces, the cause or reason for which communication in social networks will be. On the other hand, imagining life without them is no longer possible, so if you want to save your marriage, just try to keep the simple rules with your husband.
- Stop entering dating sites, remove from them if they were registered before marriage.
- Add wedding and family photos to your pages with children, indicate that you are a family person, even if officially your relationship is not decorated.
- Do not close the page when your second half is suitable for you, it is entitled to know who you are writing about.
- If your pages in networks are pardoned for one reason or another, a wife or husband should know these passwords.
- When going to take friends the face of the opposite sex, inform the spouse.
- If you didn't like something in the communication of your second half on the network, first discuss this problem at home, do not figure out the relationship with that person, communication with which seemed suspicious to you.
- Do not enter into correspondence with strangers, do not send photos of them, do not flirt.
- Do not discuss the details of your personal life on the network for any of the relatives and acquaintances. Even if you have a need for this, do it at a personal meeting.
Interested in clients and traffic companies who have invented social networks, every year make access to personal data of customers are becoming more simple, therefore, even by alone with themselves on a personal page, it is necessary to behave as if they are closely observed. No need to write or put anything that could be used later as a compromising on you. After all, the slightest oversight can break the life of your family.
Along with children and adolescents, adults and parents of children are also not protected from the negative impact of the Internet. Today, the Internet, in particular its social networks, is an inseparable factor in the life of people. So, for example, many adults most of their time are carried out in communication with participants in various groups.
In fairness, it should be noted that modern technologies and social networks brought a lot of useful people. However, the damage and negative impact of these networks relate to the human factor. In principle, when a person crosses through the moderation threshold and begins to violate the norms, it is always accompanied by negative consequences. This rule undoubtedly applies to social networks and the Internet as a whole.
New technologies have made a significant contribution to simplifying many issues and cases concerning human life. Thanks to the development of science and technology, many problems of the human community have been eliminated and many human diseases are eliminated. Although in the past, the distance was considered an important factor in the presence or absence of communication between people, today thanks to the Internet and social networks, the connection of people with each other accepted broad and global scale.
Previously, if a person was removed from the house for a significant distance, the only means of communication served as an international phone, whose services, in turn, were expensive. However, today things are different. Having left for the edge of the world, a person can contact his relatives and close through social networks and almost free. Moreover, he can place his photo on his page or in the avatar or a pleasant fragment from his life who remembers him and share his joy with friends and loved ones, which can go to his page and see photos and other materials.
Featuring special attractiveness and opportunities, social networks attract a varied spectrum of people with the most different looks for life and interests. Tracting to establish new connections and in general, to contact with other people and public relations, constantly forces the participant of the social network to return to the virtual world. Excessive time in a virtual environment, which has already been called Internet addiction, has a strong negative impact on a person individually and society as a whole and affects the strength of the family and the relationship between its members.
The family as the most important cell of the Company serves as a place of development and education of healthy and useful members of society. Society and consisting of healthy families in which the communities are replete between members, love and caress, are waiting for a promising and bright future.
One of the psychologists notes: "I remember the mother of the child, who told that her daughter was very shy and secluded. When the child led to a psychologist to learn the causes of such behavior, he asked for the next reception to bring several samples of her drawings. The attention of the psychologist attracted the moment that the absence of a father felt in all drawings of the child. The psychologist asked the mother of the child, is it divorced? A woman with surprise objected and said that he was married, and for 10 years he lives with the father of the child. "Why then your daughter does not draw your father in his drawings?", - asked the psychologist.
The woman posted that her husband, returned from work after a small rest sitting at the computer and did not pay attention to the child. And if the girl comes to his father and turns to him with a request, he shouts at her and drives out so as not distracting. "Not only a child, but also I have never seen love from him, no attention from him, I feel tired and I have no strength, as a result, and I am no longer able to respond to the games and pranks of my child." - told the mother of the child.
This story can serve the validity of many families of our century. Not only fathers, but many mothers are rendered by the virtual world chambers. And when they come to themselves and return to the world real, then they understand that several hours have passed.
Online dependence, dependence on social networks and non-stop conducting time in these networks destroyed the relations of many families. The time that spouses seemingly should spend on love with each other, a pleasant time and solving family problems and questions through sincere communication, the spouses are usually carried out on social networks, where they leave feedback on photos and messages of others and satisfy their curiosity, visiting Personal pages of other users. Women sometimes fully immersing social networks, forget about the upbringing of children and homely troubles, which cause their children and spouse discontent.
Researchers celebrate one interesting point about social networks. Users usually lay out the good and joyful moments of their lives on their pages, and the hidden validity of life and their problems remain behind the curtain. This negatively affects people who live in less favorable conditions, and who, perhaps, did not have a life or developed as much as I would like. This, as a result, is preparing the soil of the emergence of depression, others have the cause of conclusion in families who compare their lives with the life of other people.
All these facts are definitely not evidence that technology and modern means of communication are devastating. Technologies are essentially not destructive and malicious. The wrong is a person's approach to them, his incorrect and inept use, and as a result, a detrimental and negative impact on the life and lifestyle of people.
Due to unlimited pastime in social networks, women do not pay due time and attention to her husband and children, and the husbands do not have time to give love and affection to their wives and children, which leads to the weakening of family obstacles. Moreover, in social networks it is much easier to get acquainted and establish connections with the opposite sex than in real life.
The user of social networks is trying to show other positive parties and what could attract others and rarely when exposing their drawbacks. This, of course attracts users, despite the fact that if they lived together in the real world, and not in a virtual environment, it is possible that they would not live together together because of a large number of disagreements and problems. Acquaintance with the opposite sex in social networks is much faster than in real life, sometimes through several clicks. Such connections certainly cause not a very kind and incentive reaction of spouses, which causes them an antipathy to each other.
At the same time, some users who are married think that virtual communication in terms of morality is a small sin, but the betrayal is not considered. However, according to psychologists, the spouse suffers from such a connection no less than if he changed it in real life. Sometimes there are such cases when a man or a woman, touching his life with marriages, retain their virtual relationship with the opposite sex in social networks. Of course, such relationships, even if virtual, are not quite pleasant feelings, he or she feel deceived. Such marriages are usually fraught with divorces. The shocking statistics of Western countries testifying to increase divorces, the reason for which suspicion or the antipathy of one of the spouses caused by the fact that another spouse is an active user of social networks and supports virtual relations with the opposite sex, proves the harmfulness of such relations for family and society as a whole.
When sincerity and love should be undermined, which should reign in the family when the light of the love and human feelings goes out between spouses, it entails the detrimental consequences for society. Members of the Company who have grown in families in which there were constant friction, quarrels and squabbles, suffer serious psychological pressure, which undoubtedly affects their moral health and public relations with other members of society. In turn, the society consisting of healthy and durable families guarantees the psychological health of society and its sufficient dynamics and development. This is also stated in religious exercises that have long been taught us that if families are full and healthy, the society will be healthy.
Specialists in the field of religion are convinced that the emotional relationship between family members serves the necessary means that can reflect the negative impact and the impact of the media to which the Internet and social networks include the family and atmosphere. The emotional connection is formed and stronger when a dialogue and communication between members is present in the family atmosphere. Therefore, parents must be vigilant and not allow the virtual environment that today has become an integral part of the life of members of society, could undermine deep and close connections between them and children, and, correctly using modern technologies, to make them a means of greater strengthening relationships and love between members families.
In our rapid time about social networks on the Internet, even a first-grader knows on the Internet. Participants of such social networks are both children and adults. Everyone has their own views, emotions and tastes. But everyone unites one thing - the thirst for communication online, which, unfortunately, moves real communication into the background. But what benefit does it bring, it remains only to guess.
Here is a letter:
"I feel like the Internet and social networks destroy my family. I say it with all frankly and clarity. I am 40 years old, my wife - 36, we have a wonderful son Oleg, to which 13. And you know, I begin to notice that I am losing them. Not in the usual sense: no one is divorced (so far), the son does not make any complaints to me as a father, but I communicate with them more and less. And it's not the fact that I am not communicated or I love football more family. I really think that is to blame for this, first of all, social networks. My father always said: problems in the family begins to go, when they stop talking in it. And now it happened.
The wife, a school teacher working on Poltavka, hiding behind, is engaged in preparing for the lessons, all the evening settles in classmates, and if she strives to talk, then it often chooses his girlfriend as the interlocutor, which now lives in the United States. With his son like a story. That generally never gets out of games, chats, VKontakte, Facebook and other similar places. When they are trying to talk to him, he immediately alarmed: Does Dad give another beat for the top three in mathematics or will learn life? It seems that he is not interested in anything at all, except for the one who wrote there on the wall or in his status. I as an object for communicating it is increasingly less and less. I do not have "VKontakte" ...
When I was 13, we ran away with friends from home, did not part with a soccer ball. When it became a little older, naturally girls were added in the circle of interest. Now the children and teenagers are sitting as sewn, at home and do not run anywear. Someone will say that it is beautiful - it's easier to follow them, but I don't think so. It seems to me that social networks are what the traditional institute of the family will destroy the ultimately.
Why, for example, long to take care of the girl, give flowers, if there are dating sites? Why want to dates if you can communicate on Skype? The Internet made our life easier, information is more affordable, and at the same time it (life) has become more banal, more predictable. Yes, and generally - this is no longer a real life, it is a surrogat. Alexei".
Psychologists argue: social networks carry a threat to relationships, and often can be at the divorce. And this is not just empty words. The American Academy of Family Lawyers A study was conducted, which showed that in each of one of the five cases, it is obliged to be obliged to in one way or another well-known social network Facebook. 81% of lawyers who are specialized for divorce in the United States are recognized that in their practice in 80% of the evidence of the proof of the measured from social networks, by the way, 66% of cases fall on Facebook.
British Sun as an illustration leads the story of one of the lawyers specializing in divorce. She argues that over the past 9 months, all of its customers used Facebook materials to prove the marital infidelity.
Treasies on the Internet become one of the main reasons for termination of marriage. So, in Germany, on an example, every fourth married couple decays because of this.
Psychologist Jan Kerner calls "Bomb Facebook" those brain "signals", which receives from the past, having met on the network with her ex-girlfriend or school love. Everything that herself exhausted and should go into the past, reincarnated with meaning and life, ousting current relations. But, according to psychologists, the main problem is that people in memory remain only positive moments of the past. And first love always leaves an indelible mark in consciousness.
Online friendship is highly idealized. In a person's consciousness, the line is erased between youth and reality. The person is completely "not visible" behind the standard phrases, "smile-kami". You can create my own image, and the interlocutor will absolutely will not guess the person's "I" of a person, imperceptibly leaving the notorious "matrix".
Specialists of the St. Petersburg Psychoanalytic Center have published the results of their research on the influence of social networks on the number of divorces. According to their winners, 15% of marriages have been contemplated because of them.
Use of the Internet separates family members from each other. While people are more and more use social networks in order to stay in touch with family and friends, the irony of fate is that the Internet reduces the actual time that people spend with those who are ok-rushing them.
The percentage of people who say they spend less time with family members because of the Internet, jumped almost three times (from 11% in 2006 to 28% last year).
Almost a third of marriages in Russia and Ukraine are now experiencing a crisis under the influence of social re-Surs. Because of the inability to use social resources a misunderstanding of spouses. The Lania put out his personal life at the social resources often ends with the destroying of the family and the dissolution of marriage, reports Associated Press.
Social networks harm learning
In a study published at the University of Ohio, it was noted that students, hanging on Facebook, spend less time to study and have lower estimates than students who do not use popular social networks.
"Most students behaved like smokers who are hiding after school to delay. They were not held and secretly looked at their pages using phones, "the investigators tell. Many of them are so tied to social networks that spend online for more than 21 hours a day. They do not have enough time to present, high-quality communication with friends and family members.
Interestingly, many students recognized that social networks are an unhealthy dependence that destroys their health and relationships.
Will not be able to ensure the safety of children
In social networks, children may encounter a variety of dangers. Among the main - corruption, involvement in sexual actions via the Internet, suggesting the unlawful and asocial world-views (extremism and terrorism, culture of violence), collecting information via the Internet about children and their environment in order to commit unlawful actions.
There is also an important and harmful psychological aspect. In the real world, you need to be able to get along with different people who need to tolerate and communicate with them - so the character is formed. In the virtual world you can exclude "stimuli" - just press the button, "Remove from friends" - and there is no problem. As a result, depression, closure in themselves, inability to solve conflict situations and other a bouquet of mental abnormalities - not immediately, of course, slowly and imperceptibly ... The results are drafted into statistics and show themselves in all its glory in 10 years.
This is the future we did not expect. This drug, dependence on which you need to recognize one of the most dangerous today.
Total: social network is a hurricane for a weak human psyche, which at the same time destroys families and brings losses to companies. It is a sticky and pulling web, which envelops and creates a non-punched cocoon, discontinuing with the real world and live people.
Irina Davydova
Clean Internet Logoslovo.
Enough to sit down in the "cozy" social networks! It turns out that it can destroy your relationship!
According to the study in which 581 Twitter users participated, carrying out a large number of time in this social network is associated with an increase in the quarrels in pairs. At the same time, even those pairs, which consist in long-term relationships come under the blow. Misunderstanding and tapping, in turn, increase the risk of change and even breaks of relationships.
"The active use of social networks has a negative impact on relationships in a pair, increasing jealousy between partners," says Dr. Scott Krakuer, a psychiatrist from the Savier Hillside Hospital, New York. Thanks to social networks, you lose a huge amount of time that could spend along with your loved one or your beloved.
To assess the influence of Twitter for love bonds, specialists have created an online questionnaire from 20 points, which sent more than 3.4 million users of this blue social network with a bird. The data of the study in which the 581 volunteers agreed to take part, were published in the journal "Cybersichology, Behavior and Social Networks" ( Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking).
The questions were aimed at clarifying the number of time spent on Twitter, as well as its influence on interpersonal relationships.
It turned out that on average, users spend on Twitter for 52 minutes a day, 5 days a week.
It turned out that increasing the number of time spent on this social network was associated with an increase in conflicts in a pair, treason and parting. Quarrels arose no matter how long partners met.
According to Krakuer, it can be explained by two reasons.
In addition, the information that is placed on Twitter may be incorrectly interpreted by a partner, which gives many reasons for misunderstanding, quarrels and jealousy.
"Nevertheless, we tend to believe that the indicated problems associated with twitter are not the root of evil, but only the symptoms of the disaster in relationships," says Paul Hocmeier, a specialist in the field of family and marriage from New York. - I do not think that it is the social networks lead to ruptures in relationships. The cause of separation is usually distrust and not enough honest relations between partners who are manifested, including on social platforms. "
In the problematic relations of the unfortunate partner will be disturbed and annoying any hobby of its halves, even if it is embroidery or golf, in one word, any occupations that take time from love.
"It's not a twitter at all is a problem of grinding," says Hokmeyer. - Social networks help to escape from real problems. " So do not rush to scold your husband for spending too much time in social networks, because there may be problems in the family.
It is shown that one for two accounts in social networks helps reduce the number of conflicts. To solve the problem, you can set the time limit to use the Internet in entertainment purposes.
You, in turn, do not deepen into the analysis of the page of your halves. Some manage to think on the clock, which may mean one or another "repost". If you catch yourself at what you go to your profile for your beloved tenth time per day, order yourself to stop.
