Let's start with the pupils. (Look into my eyes and you will see the truth)
Pupils dilate or constrict in certain lighting conditions. It all depends on the mood and brightness of the lighting. If a person is emotionally aroused, then his pupils become slightly more dilated than in the same light, in a calm state. The same thing happens when a person looks at something they like. Not just because they say "already eyes lit up." A person with dilated pupils looks the most attractive and bewitching. But if the pupils narrow, then aggression, anger and irritation increase in a person.
Raised eyebrows (sign, gesture - Hey, hello!)
Eyebrows rise when we notice a pleasant person next to us and we want him to notice us too. This is nothing more than a manifestation of interest. People who remain stone-faced and do not raise their eyebrows when greeting are regarded as aggressive, sympathy for them is much less. Know that if you raise your eyebrows, then the person will surely repeat your gesture and perhaps even smile in response.
Highly raised eyebrows (Gesture, sign - Hug me or submit)
Women with high eyebrows and big eyes are considered submissive and are therefore very popular with men. They want to be hugged and protected. In men, everything is different, the lower the eyebrows, the narrower the eyes. So men want to show their authority and seriousness. Recently, however, this look has also been used by women. And if the eyebrows are thick, bushy, then he is more aggressive than domineering and capable of subjugating himself.
An underhand look. (Gesture, sign - I'm playing with you)
If a woman's head is slightly tilted and she looks askance, then this is a signal of humility that men like so much. It gives its owners "childish naivety and purity of soul." Such a look awakens truly parental feelings. And if all this is complemented by a smile, then the effect is simply stunning. In a dispute, the interlocutor is likely to take the side of that person who looks cute and humbly from under his brows.
A sidelong glance can be viewed from two sides. If it is complemented by a flirtatious smile and a gleam in the eyes, then you are interesting to the interlocutor. Such a "languid" look is used by women during flirting. But if, in addition to looking at the face, there is a smile with lowered corners of the lips and frowning eyebrows, then the interlocutor is most likely hostile and it is better to hide from his field of vision.
Frequent blinking (Gesture, sign - Eye tick)
Typically, a person blinks about eight (8) times per minute. Has your interlocutor started blinking more diligently? No, he does not fall asleep and does not correct contact lenses (if the latter, then relax) Just in this way, blinking often, his brain wants to "throw out" your image from the subconscious. When a person starts blinking stubbornly, closing his eyes for 2-3 seconds, know that he is simply tired of communicating with you and cannot tell you about it in person due to embarrassment or for another reason. In this case, it is better and easier to find another interlocutor and continue communication with him.
Shifty eyes, eyes (Gesture, sign, look - Where is the way out ...)
Have you noticed that the eyes of your interlocutor began to run from side to side? Not no! He doesn't do eye exercises! He is looking for an escape route (or looking for a target if he is an intelligence agent). You tired him with your conversations or they are not interesting to him. Perhaps he will even try to smile with pursed lips in response, imitating interest, but know that most likely when you turn away, he will run away.
Social look (Glance, gesture, sign - Just talking with your eyes)
During normal communication, the interlocutor's eyes "draw" a triangular area affecting the eyes and nose. In this area, we focus on a simple situation that is safe for us. Such a look is not regarded as aggressive or hostile. This is how communication occurs between people of equal status and age. Effortless and easy.
Intimate look (Intimate "conversation" with the eyes)
Thanks to improved peripheral vision, women can discreetly look at a man, looking down anywhere. But men do not know how, they closely examine the object of their adoration. An intimate look "draws" a triangle between the eyes and its top is formed on the chest, and if people are at a distance, it passes from the eyes down to the inguinal region. The look is not hostile, it means that the person most likely wants something more from communicating with you.
Powerful look (powerful conversation with eyes)
The domineering gaze is concentrated in the triangle between the eyes of a person and "his mythological third eye" above the eyes along the bridge of the nose. Usually this view is used by authoritative, self-confident people. He carries the power and desire to suppress the interlocutor. People of soft nature are sometimes advised to use such a look to appear more serious, complementing it with lowered eyebrows and narrowed eyes. It is with this look that the interlocutor can interrupt a boring conversation.
Looks up - down, right - left.
Where do the eyes of the person sitting opposite look? The eyes are the mirror of the soul! If the eyes are directed upwards to the left, then the person is most likely trying to remember an image he saw earlier or what he once did. And if down to the right, then the emotions and feelings with which this or that action was performed are remembered. If it is directed to the left towards the ear, then the person remembers the melody or the sound he heard, and if he mysteriously looks down to the left, then an internal dialogue is being conducted. Such views do not last long, and pass almost instantly, the main thing is to catch them.
Head straight, head up.
A raised head is characteristic of people who participate in a conversation. This position is neutral, does not carry aggression or, on the contrary, deep indifference. A raised head may be complemented by small nods during a conversation, or a person may rub his chin, thinking about what was said or heard. In any case, you can be sure that the interlocutor is listening to you (unless he is frozen with an unblinking look, most likely he fell into a trance in this situation) If the chin is pushed forward and slightly up, and is accompanied by a kind of look down, then the person is arrogant And you should be more careful when talking with him.
Tilt the head to the side. Look with a tilt of the head.
The head tilted to one side is a symbol of submission. At this moment, a person wants to show that he is not a threat, because he opens his throat. Also, tilting to the side indicates an interest in the conversation. Often, in order to appear more attractive, women bow their heads in the presence of a man. Showing often to people your "defenseless" neck, you will be able to win them over.
The head is tilted forward. (Signal of disapproval, gesture of aggression)
Bulls always stick their horns forward when they are aggressive. A lowered head and a look from under his brows with eyebrows brought together and flared nostrils, signals to others about the negative and aggressive mood of a person, he is ready to tear apart anyone who is not favorable to him or who is not nice to him. You'd better wait for this. while a person straightens his head or at least tilts it to the side, otherwise any of your words can have the effect of a "red rag" and you can be "raised on the horns."
P.S. All of the above gestures, views and examples can only be used in context and are not an accurate indication of one or another decoding and understanding of the action. Remember, you should not judge only by one sign and interpret actions in your direction. Don't be prejudiced.
When a person covers his eyes with his hand, this means that he is subconsciously ashamed of what he sees or does ("my eyes would not see"), as if physically trying to fence himself off from the shameful (that is, the one that he is ashamed of) lies, not look into the eyes of the interlocutor.
The classic, canonical gestures of lying, prescribed in all textbooks: remember how small children, having lied, and being afraid of it, cover their mouths with their palms? There is always a child in every person. And therefore, speaking a lie, he often unconsciously seeks to cover his mouth with his hand. Most often this is done more veiled (touching the corner of the lips, rubbing the nose, etc.).
Touching the neck with fingers means about the same as touching the face - except that the gesture is more deeply "hidden" and disguised. This gesture (as opposed to scratching the neck, which means uncertainty) means that the person, as it were, "keeps his finger on the pulse", controls himself, and also experiences some kind of "suffocation" from what the lie says (also: pulling the collar).
Another indicator of "honesty" is the direction of the gaze. It is known in psychology and NLP that the direction of a person's gaze betrays the hemisphere that is dominant for him in this moment time. So, look to the left (towards the partner’s left hand - that is, in fact: look to the right) indicates that the left hemisphere is active, which controls the right side of the body and is responsible for logical, rational thinking. A look to the right (towards the right hand of the partner) means the activity of the right hemisphere, connected with the left side of the body and providing imaginative, emotional creative thinking. Therefore, as has long been known, a lying person can be easily calculated by eye movement: unconsciously, he makes eye movements to the right in order to think up, and not to the left in order to remember (see the table for more details).
| Looking right up
means creating visual images, fantasizing about "what it might look like" or lying ("what it supposedly looked like") |
Looking up left
means recalling visual images that existed in reality or long ago created mentally |
| Looking right horizontally
means the creation of auditory images (composing the sounds of music, speech, etc.), as well as a lie |
Looking left horizontally
means remembering sounds ever heard |
| Looking down right
means thinking about, evaluating or experiencing emotions and sensations |
Looking down left
means internal dialogue or concentration on physical sensations |
When a person lies, he speaks through his teeth. There is an expression: "to lie through your teeth" (an option is "to spit through your teeth"). This is by no means a lyrical definition, but again, a physiological reaction of the body, for which a lie is a stress that it is desirable to prevent. Therefore, a person instinctively clenched his teeth.
Another sign of lying: biting the tip of the tongue. This gesture is explained very simply - by telling a lie, a person, as it were, punishes himself for this and literally bites his tongue (in other words: "Oh my, what did I do ..." only - on a subconscious level). The gesture has another aspect: such “biting” is a belated reaction of the body, which still seeks to prevent a lie that is stressful for it (teeth clench, but do not form a barrier, but bite the tongue).
“The eyes are the mirror of the soul,” says one well-known proverb, and indeed, a person’s eyes can tell a lot about who you are dealing with. With the help of the eyes, a person transmits many unconscious signals by which one can understand whether he is lying or telling the truth, angry or, conversely, is in a good mood. The direction of the gaze to the right, left, up or down may indicate certain thought processes taking place in his head, while the person himself usually does not pay attention to where his gaze is directed, everything happens automatically. By learning to read body language with your eyes, you will begin to see a person literally through and through - with the help of words it is easy to mislead about your intentions, but it is much more difficult to make your eyes tell a lie. Body language is probably the most truthful source of information about a person, but the first thing you should pay attention to is the look. In this article, we will look at several common non-verbal signals transmitted by a person’s gaze and their eyes.
Reading body language, gaze and other eye signals:
| Signal | Meaning | Details |
| normal look to the right | Fiction, conjecture, lie, fiction | Looking to the right may indicate thinking about the next statement. Depending on the context, such an eye signal may indicate an attempt to mislead you, or the creation of a story on the fly. If the gaze is directed to the right and down, it is assumed that the person is addressing feelings - this may indicate their sincerity, or, depending on the context and personality of the person, an attempt to deceive you. |
| Normal look to the left | Recall, recourse to memory, extraction of facts | Looking to the left most likely indicates that a person is accessing information from his memory. Most likely, what he says in such a case is the truth, at least for him. A look to the left and down can talk about an ongoing internal dialogue, an attempt to come to an opinion, a solution. |
| Looking right up | Imagination, fiction, lies | If a person looks to the right and up, this may indicate his appeal to creative imagination. You should be alerted by the transition of his gaze to the right and up at the moment when, by definition, he must remember something or give facts. |
| Extreme look to the left | Imagining sounds | The transition of the gaze to the left edge may indicate an attempt to imagine sounds. The person in this case can imagine what the other person might say, or invent what they have been told in the past. |
| Looking down right | Appeal to feelings | Such a non-verbal signal can be used to judge the inclusion of the imagination, but this is hardly an attempt to deceive you. So a person refers to his feelings and emotions about something. To correctly interpret this signal, one must look at the context and other accompanying body signals. |
| Looking up left | Link to images from memory | If a person's gaze is directed upwards to the left, this may indicate that he is trying to extract facts from memory or any other information from the past. |
| Extreme look to the left | Retrieving sounds from memory | Looking to the left suggests recalling sounds from memory, thus this signal is read as remembering or thinking about what was said by the other person, or by himself. |
| Looking down left | Internal dialogue, rationalization | Looking down to the left speaks of an internal dialogue taking place in a person’s head in relation to things happening around him, which is significantly different from looking down to the right, when a person is immersed in his feelings. |
| Direct eye contact when speaking | Sincerity or deliberate cover-up of a lie | Direct eye contact usually indicates the sincerity of the interlocutor, and indicates that he has nothing to hide. But don't be discouraged by this sign, for people who are prone to cheating are aware of this circumstance and can easily maintain direct eye contact to cover up lies. |
| Direct eye contact while listening | attentive listening, interest | The look of a person focused on the eyes of the speaker, as a rule, indicates that this person has an interest in the interlocutor or the subject of discussion. In some cases, it can be seen as a signal that the "watcher" finds the "speaker" attractive. |
| Wide eyes | Interest, call, invitation | Wide eyes, like direct eye contact when listening, can indicate a person's interest in the interlocutor or the subject of conversation, as well as the expectation of a positive response from the interlocutor. Together with raised eyebrows, such a signal can be associated with surprise or shock, in addition, sometimes this signal serves as a sign of greeting. Wide-eyed women can be read as a way to increase attractiveness, in some cases a sign of interest, and more, depending on the context. |
| Rubbing the eye or eyes | Disbelief, frustration or fatigue | Rubbing the eyes or one eye may indicate disbelief in one's eyes, as well as frustration or fatigue associated with boredom or a need for sleep. Accompanied by frequent blinking, eye rubbing can indicate fatigue. |
| eye rolling | Disappointment, frustration | Rolling the eyes up, perhaps as a signal of disappointment or annoyance, internally the person exclaims something like: “Oh God, where have I been (a)”. |
| pupil dilation | attraction, desire | Human pupils dilate in the dark and constrict in the light, this is their natural reaction to this stimulus. In other cases, dilated pupils may be caused by attraction to an object of the opposite sex, or interest and desire to get something. |
| Frequent blinking | Excitement, tension | The normal human blink rate is six to twenty times per minute. An increase in this number of blinks is usually explained by an increase in excitement or tension, while the blink rate can increase up to a hundred times per minute. This signal should not be considered as a reliable sign of a lie. |
| Eyebrow lift | greeting, surprise | Rapid raising and lowering of the eyebrows is considered a greeting signal that came to us from primates, this signal is used consciously. Raising the eyebrows and holding them up for a while can be a sign of fear or surprise. |
Much can be read in the eyes of a person, much simply cannot be hidden from view, however, in order to understand exactly what a person feels and thinks, it is not enough to be able to read in the eyes. It is necessary to look at the context in which certain body signals appear, it is necessary to look at and take into account many other body language signals, including gestures, facial expressions, body position and breathing rate. In the following articles, we will try to analyze as many body language signals as possible so that you can build a more accurate picture of the people with whom you have to communicate. I wish you success!
Perhaps, knowledge that will decipher and tell us how to understand that a person is lying is useful to everyone today. It's easy if learn a few secrets and be able to use them.
Psychology will put everything in its place, and gestures, facial expressions, phrases and looks will help you find out that a person is lying.
Nobody is immune from lies. Some people lie in small things, trying to reveal only half-truths, for some, lying is a hobby, and for some, it’s a habit. But there is a category of people for whom lying has become a profession and each of us can be in the place of the victim of such a liar.
How can you protect yourself from lies and determine that a person is lying? Help to figure it out advice from psychologists capable of analyzing human behavior and revealing the main signs of a lie.
- Minimum gestures. People who talk from the bottom of their hearts are always emotional. They gesticulate, trying to draw attention to their problem. The gestures of the liar are minimal, he keeps them under control and uses them only unconsciously. It is the subconscious signals that help us to know that a person is lying.
- When a person lies, he trying to cover his face with his hands: often touches the forehead, lips or nose.
- You can recognize a liar by his look - he tries not to make eye contact, his pupils are constricted. A liar blinks very rarely and rarely fixes his eyes on one point.
- The person who tells lies keeps a closed posture: crosses his arms over his chest or hugs himself a little.
- If a person is not used to lying, he maybe a little nervous, fiddling with a pen, sheet of paper or any other object. But this also happens with people who are insecure.
- Interlocutor who lies can take a short break in the conversation: cough or drink water.
In fact, it is sometimes very difficult or almost impossible to determine that a person is lying. Some people are so believe in their lies that they are very difficult to convict with the help of gestures and facial expressions. Such individuals lie all the time, a lie for them is a certain way of life or even a disease. But even here there are a couple of secrets to recognize whether a person is telling the truth or not.
If a person keeps repeating phrases like“I never lie” or “Have I ever lied to you?” means he wants to hide the truth.
If your interlocutor does not have a phenomenal memory, then after a while he will forget the details about which he lied. He will repeat a well-thought-out lie to the smallest detail, but specific questions will certainly unbalance him. Ask to describe the situation in more detail or specify the circumstances under which it occurred. Usually liars begin to get confused in the details or come up with ridiculous situations.
Sometimes, during such checks, a person can behave aggressively or vice versa, wants to arouse pity in the interlocutor or win him over. In such conversations a liar often tries to change the subject or answer a question with a question. Try to play by the rules of the interlocutor and take the conversation in a different direction. You will notice that the person has relaxed, calmed down and does not intend to return to the exciting topic anymore.
Where does a person look when he lies?
We promised to tell you how to understand that a person is lying in his eyes and where he is looking in this case. Many people gives a look, they may even look you in the eye, but they continue to lie.
When a person speaks the truth, his gaze is directed inward, as if into himself. He speaks in a measured tone, his lips pursed. Liar, on the other hand, looks up and into the distance as if contemplating a non-existent object. He speaks too fast or, on the contrary, too slowly. It can also betray the deceiver gaze to the right.
Thinking up a situation, a person can slightly turn his head to the right and look up. At the same time, he, as it were, imperceptibly tries to look at the interlocutor, studying his reaction.
How to understand that a person is lying to you by correspondence?
It happens that we cannot establish visual contact with the interlocutor. And here there are a couple of tricks. When a person is far away, he relaxes and can use words that will certainly give him away.
There is one revealing story of how a girl exposed her boyfriend in a lie after reading his message. The guy wrote to his girlfriend something like this message: "I'm at home, and I'll be there until the evening." After reading it, the girl realized that she was being deceived. After all, if her beloved was really at home, he would write "here" and not "there." So, people are betrayed by carelessly spoken phrases. It is important to learn to read between the lines and catch such inconsistencies.
