There I talked about the following:
Self-confidence is generated, first of all, from inner faith in oneself!
But the problem is that for many men, believing in themselves is not as simple a task as it might seem at first glance. This article will help you understand how to believe in yourself.
I think you already understand that you need to believe in yourself in order to become and be a truly confident person. Possess this truly great, unreal leadership quality, the quality of a real male (man). Not a guy, not a boy, not a man, but a MAN fucking with BALLS.
A confident man can achieve whatever he wants and even more, in any field of activity (sports, business, relationships, politics, etc., etc.). Without confidence, you can't go anywhere.
Stop fucking PUSHING yourself into some kind of framework, standards, boundaries! ENOUGH!
The vast majority of people themselves take and limit their capabilities. By yourself, damn it, by yourself. And it is beyond these FRAMEWORKS, STANDARDS, BOUNDARIES that miracles happen, success and happiness begin. Understand? This applies to EVERYTHING, understand: nothing is impossible!
As you program yourself, so it will be. Whatever attitude you give yourself, so it will be. Whatever code you write for yourself, that’s how it will be. Understand? If you think that you won’t succeed, it won’t work out, you won’t be able to, etc. and so on. then it will be so, and all because you yourself gave yourself such an attitude in your head, you programmed yourself for it. Therefore, understand: nothing is impossible, believe and believe in yourself! Always. In everything. Program yourself for success and it is guaranteed to you.
The most striking example: you like it sooooo much beautiful girl. Well, it’s really unrealistic, cool, beautiful, bright, everything is just fire. Of course you take it, so what? Yes, you program yourself to the fact that nothing will work out with such a female, she is cooler, not my level, she will never be and will not even look in my direction, blah blah blah. In short, you raise her rank and thereby lower yours. As a result, there is already an imbalance. In the end = this is exactly how everything will be, because you fucking programmed yourself for it. I gave myself such a setup in my head. That you are a loser, that you are a loser, that nothing will work out for you, that it won’t work out, etc. It's all your fault, you know?
You don't believe in yourself. You don't have the correct setup. Correct programming. Understand: nothing is impossible, the limit is only in your head. Program yourself for success and it is guaranteed to you.
P.s. even if something doesn’t work out the first, second, etc. times => you buy invaluable experience, which develops you, making you stronger and better. You develop and become better. This is good :)
No. 2. Achieve success in life
This will certainly increase your inner self-confidence. As a result, it will grow and grow and grow and increase with each of your new and new victories. 100% guarantee, rest assured.
In order to achieve what you want in life, you need GOALS!
Target- this is the final desired RESULT! What needs to be achieved. Personally by you.
It is imperative to set goals so that all your ideas, ideas, plans, dreams, etc. are achieved by you, and do not remain dreams (plans, ideas, plans) until the end of your days.
No. 3. Destroy your fears. Break them!
How to get rid of your fears? How to break them? => The best way is “look an emu in the face.” Yes, it’s scary, but you need to ACT, with inner FAITH IN YOURSELF! With faith in SUCCESS! Those. with correct installation (programming). Read point number 1. if you already forgot.
The point is that this is the same as success in life, only here you challenge yourself and break yourself. Ultimately, this simply unrealistically greatly increases your inner confidence, because time after time you understand that nothing is impossible, and the limit is only in your head.
No. 4. Watch and, if necessary, change your “environment”
Understand: those people with whom you communicate (the so-called circle of your communication) are only your choice and rest assured it is incredibly important, because these people have a very strong influence on you!
If your social circle is losers (losers) who do nothing but whine and complain throughout life, change it without hesitation, because confident people never complain or whine. And you need an environment in which you can grow and develop. And not to degrade or stand still.
If you want to become better at something, start communicating and learning from the best.
If your environment does not bring anything into your life, but only wastes your time on some crap, making you weaker, slowing down your development, etc. and so on. then change it, because it is not worthy of you and you are simply not on the same path with them (with them you will not be able to grow and develop, you have nothing to “catch” with them).
I talked about this in more detail in the main article:
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How to believe in yourself? The relevance of the problem of how to believe in yourself and your strengths appears when a person has already encountered a number of failures or he has to accomplish something that has extreme personal significance for him. And if an objective vision of your failures should prompt you to analyze your actions, reorient your actions or improve your skills, then if what is coming is of great importance, you will have to work exclusively with internal attitudes. First of all, a person needs to figure out why some matter has received super-importance in his system. It is unlikely that the question of how to force yourself to believe in yourself before an important interview does not arise for those who see this only as a conversation, but if you add the desire to become worthy in the eyes of your partner, to justify parental expectations, the lack of other prospects, then the importance of the interview soars significantly .
Understanding the reason for the high importance can help you separate the task itself from the expectations placed on it from above and give you the opportunity to recognize your family to earn differently. It is worth studying the issue and looking at examples of successful implementation of what you want by other people who have the same starting positions or other basic conditions - here you can learn a lot and in reality see that there is nothing transcendental in the goal, just as nothing critical happened to people during achievement.
The scale of the task, which with its weight simply crushes a person (living in a rented one-room apartment, making plans for your own built castle can seriously shake self-conceit and faith) can generate disbelief in one’s abilities. Break big tasks and long-term plans into small ones (not so destructive to the ego), develop a certain algorithm of action - this seriously calms you down, instills confidence, and adds strength. When you look at a list of several tasks, see the prescribed moves in case of a turn, then the whole event ceases to seem impossible. It is this purely practical approach that often turns out to be much more effective than various affirmations and other techniques, since it reinforces your strength with actions, you see real changes in what is happening, although the same change mechanisms are involved, it’s just that in one case you convince yourself how cool you are, and in the other you optimize the problem and reduce the scale of its impact.
How to believe in yourself when you give up
Self-confidence may slip away periodically due to various factors: criticism of others, another failed attempt to implement a plan, a series of bad luck or an overestimated significance of what is happening. But there are situations when you give up and everything that pops into your head concerns only how to quit everything, and not how to believe in yourself and your strength, because objectively there is no strength left. Depressive and apathetic states, moments of crisis suck all reserves from the energy reservoir, leaving no opportunity to move on. Often the problem is not solved for so long that there is no strength to continue, but there is also no resource left for care. All this concerns issues of rethinking and finding motivation. It is the presence of each action that gives a person new opportunities, imbues him with energy and includes other paths of achievement.
You'll have to do some soul-searching to find out whether your hard work is still your true goal. All set goals must be periodically reviewed and adjusted to stay on course. Well, what's the point of investing in a relationship where they cheat on you for the purpose of further marriage? What is the point of continuing to draw up a methodology for a project that has not been launched for a year, but continues to require development from you? Why go to visit those who have long ceased to be your friends? It’s easier to choose a goal once, but only when it no longer corresponds to your changed internal attitudes, the energy will not be supplied to achieve it. Yours will begin to choose erroneous strategies, trigger various somatic diseases, and in other ways prevent what has already ceased to be your true desire from coming true.
Try to consider your life globally and as broadly as possible, seeing all the relationships that exist in the world. this moment, imagine the future. Such an analysis helps in understanding how much the goal that you are striving for and trying to raise yours from scratch will please you if it is realized. Look for the larger meaning of your life, rather than short-term stages of satisfaction, after achievement, which are covered by emptiness and hopelessness. When you focus on such a lifestyle, over time, it turns on, preventing you from achieving what you have chosen, because after achievement there is no expectation of joy, emptiness and meaninglessness await, and while you are endlessly pounding in attempts to achieve, life seems to be filled with meaning. Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish between meanings, values and goals: the first makes you live and feel energy, the second sets the choice of paths for implementation, and the third shows the direction.
When you reconsider your life, it does not give quick results, so it would be good to have the support of loved ones at this stage. In principle, this is a great strategy when you are not coping, and sometimes it is delegating some of the responsibilities that allows you to breathe new life into a frozen event.
Eliminate all negativity from your sight, stop at least temporarily communicating with people who do not believe in you and your success. Take risks and loudly declare your desires, because perhaps realization is somewhere very close. If you are looking for a job, tell everyone, maybe even strangers, but nice people, if you are confused in finding the right product, then start looking in places and countries where you have not been before or which for some reason you were afraid to trust. Such risky experiments often give a positive result, because if you didn’t find something, didn’t receive it, didn’t finish it with where you are now, it might be worth changing the external scenery.
How to believe in yourself and gain confidence
How a person can believe in himself and gain confidence are questions that are close, but not synonymous. Self-confidence consists of an attitude towards a possible future, a positive assessment of the possibilities in realizing your plans, while confidence adds general fulfillment to this list, since these are not theoretical concepts, but the direct practice of life (if you are full of plans and developments, but do not implement them in any way). reality, the amount of faith will only decrease).
Formulate your qualities as honestly as possible - accepting your various sides gives confidence in managing your life, because by owning similar information, you will remove doubts about whether you can or not, and you will definitely be able to be responsible for the result or not get down to business, identify unknown areas where you cannot predict the result. Recognizing your shortcomings allows you to take advantage of them, and in any professional community those who clearly understand the boundaries of their competence are more valued than those who grasp at everything and present themselves as omnipotent. It is important not to indulge in self-criticism; simple recognition and acceptance is enough; all shortcomings should be treated with patience. Instead of criticizing, it is better to praise yourself, even for small achievements or progress towards success, for example, for refusing a harmful lunch in favor of a balanced one.
Set only a few goals at a time - it is their implementation that will fill you with the feeling that you can cope with the next ones. A huge number of plans that are included in the diary overload nervous system. The more often and more symbolic ticks you tick about what you have achieved, the stronger your belief in your capabilities will become, which is facilitated by setting a small number of goals at a time.
Reconsider the beliefs that limit you; perhaps you immediately label something as “impossible” or “not my thing.” Question all the thoughts, statements and opinions you encounter along the way - your own assessments of the achievability of the goal, the verdict made about your abilities by other people, the assessment of experts and statistics on this issue. These are the factors that produce a logical, but not always correct analysis, since the situation can unfold in an absolutely unimaginable way, and where most took years, you may be lucky to get through in a month.
How to help someone believe in themselves
Helping a person may not always be in the nature of solving his problems or directly participating in it. There is a huge range of situations when intervention in a person’s life through active actions only creates the appearance of help, but in reality causes harm. So, out of compassion, you can do your child’s homework for him, making his evening easier, but in the end he will not develop, you can take care of your loved ones, while depriving them of independence, a husband can completely take care of the family, depriving his wife of choice - the list can be endless. If you see that a person refuses to implement something because of thoughts that it is difficult or that he is unworthy, then you do not need to offer him something ready, but it is better to help him, becoming confident, to achieve everything on his own. The moment you do everything for him, you seem to confirm his lack of faith in his own strength, and then doubts take on a stable form.
To help a person believe in himself, you need to leave pity and evaluation, attempts at moralizing in the background. Focus on support, which can manifest itself in completely different ways - you can make it clear that you are always there and agree to any proposal, show the importance of someone else's opinion by asking for advice, show interest in the ideas expressed. Such methods are not aggressive, but create a background of their own need and importance, sharing the same values, which further pushes for a broader idea of what was planned. But support does not always look like passive contemplation and agreement, and if you feel that your friend has energy, then it is quite possible to act actively and with pressure, taking you to new places, introducing useful people, providing a thrill. For many, such a shake-up is useful because it shows that the world around is alive and interesting, and if you start interacting with it, it will happily respond. In addition, if a person has any illogical beliefs about what is happening, then you minimize their influence by taking upon yourself to organize the first step, which is precisely the most scary (remember, dating and interviews are more frightening than dating and work).
When you communicate with a person who has lost faith in himself, avoid comparisons, even with the goal of supporting and showing how much better he is, because by doing so you trigger the comparison mechanism itself, which is contraindicated in this state. Try to talk about his qualities from yourself (“I like your dress”, “today we had fun”, “you painted a beautiful picture”). Your praises should not look like flattery or take on exaggerated forms, the very sensitive psyche of a person who has lost faith will quickly react to falsehood, so really say what you think, while criticism can and even should be given, the main thing is to choose the right form that helps the person use even your shortcomings.
How to believe in yourself and achieve success
Success is based on faith in the chosen business, direction, people around you and yourself, and this long path begins precisely from the last point. How can a person believe in himself before a new business or if there is no one in life yet? real fact achievement is not such a difficult issue, since this quality is acquired through the process of activity, and not through the accumulation of achievements. Even if a lot has been achieved, a person may still not feel confident due to the fact that he has not done anything for a long time, and vice versa, he is very active people achieve stunning success.
In order for strength and faith to appear, a goal is needed, a final point, for the sake of which the entire movement is started. Without defining a goal, it is impossible to assess our abilities, because without knowledge of upcoming actions, we cannot assess our abilities, readiness and guarantee that we can cope. The goal should be chosen not from common and fashionable trends, but from your dreams. Where you go should bring you overwhelming pleasure, let it be a dream that comes from meditation, and then its implementation itself will give you pleasure. But setting such goals as a project that is important to your boss or a diamond ring that has become popular with your friends is not the best option - when your eyes don’t light up, actions and motivation disappear instantly. In order for everything planned to happen as smoothly as possible at the formulation stage, it is worth making the entire achievement algorithm transparent and understandable, and the more detailed it is, the higher your level of peace of mind. You don’t need to know all the points of your planned project, but knowing those places where you will need advice or help from other people reduces the amount of anxiety and again determines your activities.
A beautiful and harmonious plan will help minimize the impact of anxiety on your condition, but its presence alone does not bring you closer to success and does not give you confidence - you need to act. Act in accordance with the chosen concept, without violating your internal attitudes, because if you take actions that contradict your inner meaning of life, you will become confident that your actions are incorrect and erroneous. It is important to monitor the correspondence of the external to the internal, and continue to move, even if it is better not a sudden sudden jerk, but a constant movement.
When you begin to actively move towards success, you should take care of supporting your motivation by recording your successes: check the boxes next to completed items, keep a diary of positive achievements, take photographs of your successes. This is very important, because over time, most of the efforts made will slowly begin to be erased from memory, you may get the feeling that you are not moving towards the result, then reviewing your achievements, assessing in percentage how much of the path has been covered will not only prevent you from turning back, but will reinforce your confidence.
Remove people who don't believe in the success of your event. Even small but methodical comments, devaluations and suggestions to change the task over time can kill your own faith in success and make you stop literally before the finish line. Criticize their statements, if you see that dialogue is possible, then in dialogue - this way you will get an expanded picture and notice some details that eluded you earlier than you can minimize losses. Remember that you are communicating to take advantage of his ability to see difficulties and proactively develop options for overcoming them.
When the critical voices are not outside, but inside, then these are internalized assessments from childhood (careless comments from educators, parents and ordinary passers-by), which are firmly entrenched in perception and, with their influence, hinder development in a new quality. You can track these manifestations, remember who in your life they belonged to and compare them with reality, making sure that this is not the case now, or you can take professional help from a psychologist in working through such problems, which will speed up the process.
Even in the most successful society, many people need help. These include children from the orphanage, beggars on the street, veterans, and those who need blood transfusions.
Try to make someone's day a little better. Solving other people's problems will make you more confident and increase your self-esteem.
2. Make a list of victories
Surely you have had difficult situations in your life from which you emerged victorious, or achievements that you can be proud of. Remember them. This will help you believe in yourself.
3. Surround yourself with people who believe in you
Try to communicate as little as possible with those who constantly humiliate you. Instead, find people with similar values who will support you and enjoy your progress.
4. Accept yourself
Love yourself completely, with all your strengths and weaknesses. It is impossible to become confident if you reject your own qualities.
5. Change your perspective
Stop focusing on the difficulties and injustices in your life. Focus on the good and interesting things around you, look for positive moments in difficult situations and be grateful to fate.
6. Solve problems gradually
It is completely impossible to start believing in yourself if you constantly fail in your endeavors. Perhaps life really does present you with too difficult tasks. Or maybe you don't assess your strengths well enough.
Determine a goal that is obviously achievable for yourself and do small things towards it. This will teach you how to properly calculate your resources.
7. Educate yourself
Francis Bacon said that knowledge is power. And he was right. If you can't cope with a problem, then you learn everything that can help solve it. If you can't control yourself, you should study yourself first.
Motivational literature and personal growth seminars can make it easier to find support in your life. Explore how the world works and the psychology of other people to better understand yourself.
8. Live your goals
Assess your goals for a year, five years, and your entire life. Be honest with yourself. Are these really your aspirations or just pictures from a fashion magazine stuck in your mind? Do you really want this or is this goal imposed by your spouse, your boss, or your environment? Maybe, instead of traveling to tropical islands, deep down in your heart you dream of locking yourself in your office and writing a program or a novel? Or, on the contrary, is it time to give up everything and exchange the corporate tie for a bungalow overlooking the ocean?
You can only believe in yourself if you live your life. You can’t waste your time fulfilling other people’s desires and respect yourself at the same time.
9. Stop comparing yourself to others
Everyone has their own path, goals and achievements. Don't waste your time, emotions and energy running a race with other people. Otherwise it's all yours life will pass in the skin of a racehorse, driven by the whip of vanity and the spurs of ambition.
Self-confidence is a person’s absolute conviction in his inevitable success. Self-confidence in the face of any challenge, in front of a serious task. Self-confidence is the starting component of any significant success. What can you do if you have no faith in yourself at all? Is it possible to begin to love yourself, develop self-esteem and believe in yourself at an age when your personality has already been formed? Psychologists say yes.
How to believe in yourself and your strengths
Most likely, you previously believed in yourself. Look at small children - they all cry very persistently, with complete conviction that they are right, all children quite confidently run away from their parents or climb into their arms.
If you have ever had self-confidence, then remember this amazing state more often. Such memories will be a good basis for the next, more serious self-confidence - the same confidence that will never leave you.
It is important that you do not destroy your faith in yourself. It’s not at all difficult to destroy this faith, many people do this: they simply lower their shoulders and walk around with a sad face, quite convincingly talking about themselves that they are definitely nobody and they will succeed at absolutely nothing.
Look at yourself - we hope this is not about you? What is much worse is that after this, such people are very seriously engaged in completely destroying the self-confidence of the people around them.
It is not difficult to destroy faith in yourself and your own strengths if you do not support this faith with something deeper, if you have not comprehended the school of life, communication, and do not know how to set goals and achieve these same goals. But the one who has acquired all the skills necessary for a prosperous life is the only one who is completely confident in himself.
If you don’t have the necessary skills at all, then self-confidence is just another “empty” faith; sometimes it can be like a house without a foundation: it won’t be able to stand for long, but then it will collapse anyway.
To believe in yourself, understand that believing in yourself is a start-up capital: Moreover, if you use it wisely, it will increase. If you spend it blindly, without backing it up with anything solid, soon there will be nothing left of such capital.
And if it was, then how to return it? Stop asking this yourself. There is no need to look for faith in yourself: it is not hidden for you in its completed form anywhere. But if you suddenly build it, develop it in the future, it will arise for you.
People with a romantic approach to this matter are searching for self-confidence. Responsible comrades are engaged not just in searching for faith in themselves, but directly in setting goals, accumulating resources and endless work. The main direction is to gain knowledge, skills, life experience, to become truly more successful and more effective.
How to develop self-esteem
Such a feeling as self-esteem is not given to a person at birth; it must be developed gradually. But is it possible, as an adult, to strengthen self-esteem that has been weakened for some reason? How to develop self-esteem? Only a person who really wants this will follow the advice and achieve his goal.
You need to take an honest look at yourself from the outside and identify your pros and cons. It may turn out that some weak spots in fact, absolutely insignificant.
To increase your own dignity, as well as correct existing shortcomings, you need to really want it. If you want to believe in yourself, you need to try to eradicate your negative traits such as selfishness and hot temper, and your sense of self-respect will increase significantly. But at the same time, you should not multiply existing positive qualities.
When thinking about how to develop self-esteem, you need to think carefully and identify your main positive qualities. Diligence, patience, generosity, care and kindness, showing empathy for people - all these qualities overshadow the remaining minor shortcomings.
You need to set realistic, achievable goals, for example, learn a couple foreign languages, learn to play a musical instrument or quickly type text on a keyboard, improve reading skills or expand the range of things you study literary works. Having planned your actions and achieved one goal, you need to confidently move on, because with each subsequent step the feeling of self-respect increases.
You always need to do any work well. A careless attitude towards fulfilling one's duties does not bring satisfaction, but a well-finished task brings joy. This also applies to household chores done conscientiously.
A person should be in an environment that believes in his strengths and capabilities. Being among people for whom everyone else is an empty place, a person feels uncomfortable and this is especially detrimental to the self-esteem of adolescents. People who behave arrogantly and insult others can develop a feeling of inferiority in a person, so you need to choose those who provide support and interest as friends.
To believe in yourself, the most important thing to remember is that self-respect and self-esteem will not come from sitting on your hands. You definitely need to help yourself develop positive qualities without expecting it from others.
How to start loving yourself more than anyone else
Self-love is a necessary condition of life happy person. If you're wondering how to start loving yourself more than anyone else, then you feel like you don't love yourself enough. The reasons for insufficient self-love are self-criticism, constant introspection, dissatisfaction with oneself and one’s actions. In order to learn to love yourself, you need to radically change your lifestyle.
Devote at least a few hours a week to activities that bring you joy
If you like to lie in bed on your day off, give yourself the opportunity. If you like watching romantic comedies, don't deny yourself this pleasure. If you want to start loving yourself, give yourself the right to be who you are.
Give yourself room for error
To believe in yourself and start loving, stop scolding and criticizing yourself! Every person makes mistakes, don't beat yourself up if you did something wrong. Ultimately, any mistake can be corrected. In addition, despite the well-known phrase that you need to learn from the mistakes of others, your own experience always turns out to be more understandable and useful.
Make a list of your strengths and what you can change
Moreover, include in this list only what you think for yourself. There is no need to include here what was imposed on you by relatives, friends or acquaintances. It often turns out that our shortcomings do not hinder our lives, but those around us. Is it worth adapting to everyone?
Forgive yourself for your past actions
Often our past mistakes, grievances, insults lie on our shoulders as an unbearable burden that prevents us from fully enjoying the present. To start loving yourself, accept the fact that you have every right to be yourself, not an ideal. You made mistakes while earning your life experience, and now you are using it, it has benefited you. Until you forgive yourself and those you know for the actions you committed in the past, you will not be able to move on.
Enjoy every day
When you wake up in the morning, think that you have the whole day ahead to do something good. To start loving yourself, create your mood with pleasant music and dance from the very morning. After all, life is about movement - open your eyes and feel it.
Don't forget to praise yourself
If you want to believe in yourself and start loving, praise yourself for any good deed you have done during the day. Just skip the negative points without focusing on them. You can even take a few minutes before bed to reflect on your day and praise yourself for all the positive things you've done.
By following our recommendations on how to start loving yourself more than anyone else, you can gain self-confidence, and your life will definitely change for the better. After all, as soon as you love yourself, the attitude of others towards you will change, and positive thoughts will bring many positive events into your life.
