A famous psychologist spoke about how to charm a man just by talking to him, when and how to remain silent, why a woman’s voice should be “lined with velvet” and what voices irritate men Anetta Orlova, who wrote a monograph on this topic.

If our soul is reflected in our eyes, then our voice is a mirror of character. Intonation can color speech with warm shades of joy and self-confidence or add cold notes of arrogance and selfishness to what is said. So it's not just what you say, but also how you sound that matters.

Despite the fact that women love with their ears, the voice of the interlocutor is also important for a man. The pleasant melody of speech will not leave the listener indifferent; the timbre of the voice will complement and complete the image.

For different voices...

There is an opinion that a low voice sounds more pleasant and sexier, it seems that the writer thought so too Brendan Francis Behan. He said that men will always admire a woman whose voice is lined with velvet. Indeed, it is not difficult to fall in love with the owner of a deep voice, since her speech is imbued with self-sufficiency, strength and confidence. Such a woman looks inaccessible; it is not surprising that the hunter’s instinct awakens in men and the desire to possess her arises.

Besides, A breathy voice will help to excite a man. Whatever the girl is talking about, the words intertwined with her breathing will tell the listener that he is interested in her sexually.

For those with a high voice less fortunate, since shrill notes are often associated by interlocutors with youth and immaturity. But if a man plays the role of father in a relationship, a girl with a high voice will be an ideal companion for him.

Loud and harsh voice causes opposite associations. Most often, owners of such a voice strive to control others, want to manage and command. This option is most likely suitable for a man who will forever remain a child; he will feel in a woman with such a voice the support he needs so much.

On the first date

Enchant strong man A meek girl can easily do this, and the melody of her voice will help her emphasize her desire to be protected. On a date, it is better to speak quietly and measuredly., maintain semantic pauses, use adjectives and metaphors, exclude harsh words and phrases. It is also necessary to monitor your facial expressions and gestures; they should complement speech and not conflict with it. This may be a downcast gaze, smooth and not too active hand movements. But a woman's voice should not be lifeless. A man's attention will be attracted by the slight emotionality and freshness in the speech of his interlocutor.

If a woman wants to charm a soft and flexible man, then she needs to emphasize her strength. Speech in this case should be clear, clear and even overly emotional, and the look of such an interlocutor should express self-confidence. You definitely don’t need to look at the pattern on the floor in a cafe, nor do you need to fiddle with your napkin during a conversation.

By the way, Patricia Kaas– the owner of a sexy, bewitching voice – gesticulates quite actively and sharply, her gait is in conflict with her voice, which breaks the unity of the impression. She is a prime example of how nonverbal communication can conflict with the melody of the voice.

When talking with the man of your dreams, it is important to keep track of time and not forget about pauses. It has been proven that a man can listen to the speech of his interlocutor for no more than 20 seconds; he either will not perceive everything that is said after this time, or (even worse) will begin to get irritated. However, a man never gets tired of listening to compliments spoken in a soft and sexy voice.

Anyway, To hook a man, you need to be able to not only speak, but also listen to him. Build into your speech such constructions as “I understand you,” “I’m so interested in you,” “I like listening to your stories.” In addition, it is necessary to remember the words and phrases that he uses and sometimes pronounce them. And if a man asks: “What was I talking about?”, try to repeat the end of the phrase, he will appreciate how carefully you listened to him.

Uncertain speech is annoying

It is quite difficult for an insecure woman to attract the attention of men; things are even worse if the girl is used to complaining about her life. Naturally, the intonation will immediately reveal all the problems of the owner of the voice.
For example, drawn-out sounds, slurred speech or stuttering are signs that a woman needs constant care from her companion. It is likely that the first conversation with a man will be your last.

Assertiveness, turning into strong aggression, and masculine notes in the voice women will also cause negative emotions in men, yet they look for tenderness and care in us.

Fast active speech makes the voice fill with harsh halftones, this is tiring - it is not very pleasant to endure the tension for a long time.
A real man will always gravitate towards a soft woman whose speech and movements are soft. If a woman has a low voice, then the whole world is in her pocket.

Working on mistakes: exercises for voice and speech

“If beautiful voices were sold in supermarkets, they would have many buyers. It’s a pity that we haven’t thought of this yet,” said the gorgeous Marlene Dietrich. Can you imagine the line that would line up behind a soft, velvety voice? But while there is no such product on supermarket shelves, you can work on your intonation and speech yourself.

A shackled body is a real prison for a soft voice. Therefore, first of all, you need to remove all the clamps and allow your body to open up. The freed sexual energy will rise up the spinal column and allow the voice to sound more tender and attractive. Dancing classes will help you get rid of the shackles of your body: your body will become more flexible, your movements will be more flexible, and your voice will be sexier.

Take some vocal lessons, an experienced teacher will show you the basics of breathing correctly and remove the clamps that prevent your voice from sounding melodious. Start your day with a good gentle song performed by you and dancing to the sound of your own voice!

Intonation helps we need to convey a thought to the interlocutor, if we speak monotonously, on one note, the listener will stop perceiving the information. But in this matter you can’t go anywhere without training. To practice, take a few minutes and read passages from books. Take, for example, Bunin’s stories about love, voice the characters’ dialogues in a gentle voice and go out in a romantic mood to meet your love.

From the volume of your voice depends on how the interlocutor will perceive you, so you need to adjust it. Say numbers from one to ten at different volumes and determine which sound is optimal for you. But do not forget that if you are in a noisy place, the volume needs to be increased, otherwise the interlocutor will regard your quiet speech as disrespect for himself.

Learn to clearly formulate your thoughts, then you will create the impression of a confident woman. Rehearse in front of a mirror, watch your gestures, control them, as fussy hand movements will reveal your doubts in your own abilities.

Look at how the cat moves(this is the most attractive image for men). Imagine yourself as a catwoman and try to make your gestures as graceful. When you wake up, gently, like a cat, stretch in bed. When preparing breakfast, move like a cat, for example, walk slightly on tiptoe - this will add softness to your body, and therefore your voice. If your voice lacks sexuality, try purring and meowing every morning.

Another secret of female charm and charm - woman's voice. It can be ringing, sexy, thin, breathy, gentle, but never hoarse, smoky, shrill, dull or grumpy. It may be different, but it must be natural, because it is yours.

The voice of any person - man or woman - is not only our means of communicating with people, revealing our creative potential, but the voice is also connected with our sexuality. Do we know how to manage our sexuality and our voice?

Through her voice, a woman expresses the power of love. If she often swears and uses foul language, she destroys the harmony in herself and around her. When talking to a man, it is better for a woman to speak in a quiet, soft, calm voice. Such a female voice fascinates men and evokes romantic dreams and fantasies in them. Negative voice vibrations can destroy a man and your relationship. And the point is not what to say, but how to say it.

Words and voice work wonders. They can inspire a man and move him to great deeds. But here you can’t do without trust. When a woman loves and trusts a man, her voice sounds very soulful. And a man understands a woman from half a word, from half a glance, even when she is silent, her facial expressions express all emotions.

The woman enjoys the process of communication. This is its essence. This is why long conversations on the phone are so important for women.

To reveal her sexuality, her voice, a woman needs to sing. This is not necessarily choral or acapella singing. A woman can simply hum songs to her child, or hum melodies under her breath. If a woman does not sing and talks little, she blocks her emotions. A very good outpouring of emotions occurs at weddings, in companies - even if there is no voice, no one will hear you in the general chorus of voices.

But in the old days, women always sang: at weddings, lullabies for their children. The mother's voice has a special effect on the child. If you are talking to him and he does not listen, then when you start singing, the child usually falls silent and listens with great attention - this is exactly what happens to me.

And songs can also inspire a man to do great things. It's a pity that not all men can appreciate women's songs. A song is not just about conveying words with a voice. This is an expression of your thoughts. And if the voice comes from the heart, it resonates in the hidden corners of a man. It’s not for nothing that they say that a word can kill a person, or you can lift him to heaven.

How to speak so that a man can hear you? Try to talk to a man in a low voice coming from the heart - and he will hear you. A real woman will never stoop to squealing or grumbling.

If you are swearing, yelling at each other and feel like you are at the peak of a breakdown, try this: stop, breathe three times and say the phrase in a low, quiet voice. The reaction will be stunning. You can forget about the quarrel.

There is also a little trick - nothing has such a magical effect on men as a whisper. It makes a woman seductive and allows her to get closer to a man, touch his cheek or ear. This will not leave any man indifferent. Just don’t hiss at him, otherwise you might achieve the opposite effect and be branded a witch.

And one more thing: laugh more often. Laughter attracts good luck. A laughing woman is nothing more joyful for a man. It was he who made you laugh (so it seems to him)!

Speak sincerely, speak from the heart - you will be heard and you will be heard by men.

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It is believed that a woman with a deep voice looks more attractive to men. It seems that there is indeed some truth in this, but the point is not at all in the timbre of the voice itself: low or high, but in the various nuances associated with it. This was proven by the results of a recent study conducted by specialists from the University of Vienna.

Experiment to evaluate female voices

Scientists recruited a team of male volunteers and gave them to listen to recordings of the voices of 42 female students who had previously been photographed. Subjects were then asked to choose the most sexually attractive among the voices. In most cases, participants pointed to girls with good looks, although they did not see their faces.

The authors of the experiment noted that the faces of the students whose voices were more often identified as “sexy” were distinguished by symmetry of features, they tended to have high cheekbones, soft jawlines and full lips. According to experts, such an appearance indicates a good genotype, which also affects the synchronization of the vocal cords, larynx and nasal cavity. On a subconscious level, a man perceives a woman’s voice as a signal that everything is fine with her sexually, which means she can become a wife and mother.

Yes, a deep voice that pronounces words with aspiration and special nuances may seem attractive. But in other cases, on the contrary, it can make a repulsive impression. And not only if we're talking about about the sphere of personal relationships. For example, statistics show that women with low and hoarse voices are less likely to get a job as a result of interviews. It turns out that many people perceive people with a “squeaky” voice as “unreliable.” Maybe because those with hoarse voices often smoke and have other bad habits.

Female voices and headhunters

A team of American psychologists once invited 800 headhunters to listen to recordings of various women's voices and choose which of them they would like to invite for an interview. Only a fifth of respondents preferred women with hoarse voices. The rest commented on their choice by saying that a hoarse voice indicates low competence, lack of education and external unattractiveness.

Note that women who work as secretaries or managers and often have to communicate with people on the phone tend to have high-pitched voices. Perhaps such voices on a subconscious level inspire more trust. But at the same time, voices with an overly high timbre, more like a screech, are annoying...

"People prefer voices with vocal characteristics typical of total mass population, scientists say. - Although unusual voices may be more memorable, people usually find sounding voices more attractive."

Voice modulation depending on interest in the interlocutor

By the way, a group of experts from the University of Stirling found that our voices can change depending on whether we find the interlocutor of the opposite sex attractive. For the purpose of the experiment, 110 heterosexual volunteers were asked to strike up a conversation with each other. Subsequently, all participants were asked to fill out questionnaires that assessed the degree of attractiveness of their partners. It turned out that if a man liked the woman he was talking to, the tone of his voice decreased and the modulation also increased, that is, the frequency of the tone became more variable.

The head of the study, Juan David Leongómez, explains this by the fact that although a low timbre of the voice indicates masculinity (masculinity), it is also associated with aggression and promiscuity, therefore, wanting to please a lady, a man unconsciously tries to speak in a low voice to signal his masculinity, and at the same time modulates the tone to show that he is not aggressive and reliable.

So, if during the conversation you notice that the voice of a representative of the stronger sex has become more “singing,” then most likely this indicates his interest in you. At the same time, the researchers conclude, modulations can increase the attractiveness of a given man in the eyes of a woman. So experienced heartthrobs, consciously or unconsciously, actively use this technique.

Appearance and dress are not always indicators of a woman. Listen to what and how she begins to say.

By nature, the beautiful half of humanity is endowed with softness, fluidity, and a ringing, pleasant voice. It is a woman who is capable of reviving boring communication with her speech or killing her interlocutor with a word.

What is a pleasant female voice? How to make your voice attractive?

It is important not only how we sound, but also what we say. Agree, barbs or gossip said in a pleasant, soft female voice do not bring joy to those who hear it.

does it include gratitude to others and compliments?
does it come from the stomach or throat
those around you feel relaxed and at peace next to a woman or, conversely, excessive tension
the speed of the verbal flow should be measured and flow like a stream
literacy in constructing phrases and the number of specific terms

The attractiveness of a woman's voice is adjustable and customizable. Like a violin or piano. Pay attention to women's development and psychology trainers. They have a very pleasant and attractive timbre of voice. And questions about how to correct it are answered in sufficient detail.

We will conditionally divide them into two groups:

with the help of reason
through training

In the first case we:

consciously control what we say
We evaluate the appropriateness of the remark before voicing it
adjustable speed and flow of words, their quality

In the second option they come to our aid:

vocal lessons
breathing practices
training to pronounce words from the stomach, while exhaling
massage, yoga and any others that remove blocks in the body and reduce the amount and severity of stress

Remember that a woman who is relaxed at the level of her body and her thoughts sounds pleasant.

Gender characteristics of the speech of men and women

We differ from each other not only in gender, mental functioning and appearance, but in the sound and fullness of our speech
For example, men tend to get carried away in a conversation by a topic that interests them and not pay attention to hints to change it. Unlike women who easily adapt and adapt to their interlocutor, listen to him attentively, and quickly switch to another topic
The tendency to interrupt the interlocutor is male characteristic contrary to popular belief that women are guilty of this
The man’s speech is specific, replete with terms, and tied to the topic under discussion. For the fair half of humanity, things are different. Their speech is full of expressive epithets, interjections, in simple words, often jumps from topic to topic
Obscene language is equally present in both male and female communication. But in mixed groups of interlocutors it is not heard
Gender differences in speech have even developed to the level of word pronunciation, word length, letter substitution, and personal identification. For example, in the Chukchi language, a man pronounces a word with the letter “r”, and a woman should change it to “c”
Japanese people refer to themselves as “boku”, and Japanese women refer to themselves as “atashi”. American Indians of the Yana tribe communicate in the masculine style of their language officially, among representatives of the stronger half and with their mother-in-law. At the same time, the male version of the pronunciation of words is longer than the female one. In Portuguese, a particular word has different endings depending on who pronounces it.

Why do men and women have different voices?

Nature took care of the difference in the voices of men and women. Ever since the primitive times, men were assigned the role of protector from predatory animals. And they were afraid of low guttural sounds
Anatomically, men have longer vocal cords than women. Therefore, on their neck there is an Adam's apple, or Adam's apple, which creates additional space for the ligaments
Think about guitar tuning. The tighter the string is tightened, the shorter it is, and the sound is higher and thinner. A similar situation with male and female voice sounds
'Cause low is rude male voice scared away predators. Women, on the contrary, were attracted because of the association with protection and safety
Psychologically, the owner of a low voice is perceived as larger and larger than the one with a thin voice
Even by their physique one can guess what kind of voice a person has. Most often, large, wiry men speak in a bass voice, and thin, thin women speak in a high alto.

What voice do women use to talk to men?

Women skillfully change their outfits, images and voices. True, unlike the first two, the latter reflects the natural essence, which is difficult to disguise with pretense and antics. Beautiful ladies evaluate the situation, the interlocutor and take into account their goals.

But this is the highest aerobatics of female skill. More often we just say it as it goes, without understanding what we say and how. Meanwhile, there is a connection between the timbre of the voice and the perception of the speaker by the interlocutor.

If a woman wants to attract a man, then:

her voice sounds deep from the stomach, low with velvety overtones and pauses. Its owner is described as a “femme fatale”
soft, “wet”, with moderate accents on words

Men of a more subtle mental organization are able to “hear” the clear, moderately firm, structured speech of a lady in the middle range.

If a woman is aimed at an official format of communication, then she speaks essentially, rather dryly, at frequencies of the medium and moderate low or high range.

How to learn to speak slowly and clearly?

It is difficult to understand a person who babbles and/or swallows endings or letters in words. The interlocutor needs to strain excessively and guess the meaning of what was said. And this only worsens understanding and communication in general.

Do you suspect that you have problems with diction and speed of speech and want to eliminate them? Use a few practical tips:

Record yourself on a voice recorder, speak freely without straining your voice, as if you were talking to a friend. Listen to the recording and make sure there is a problem.
read books out loud and change intonation in dialogues
sing beautiful romances, slow folk songs, paying attention to long passages
listen scriptures when recorded, they are read slowly with clear pronunciation of words. This way you will relax, peace will settle in you and you will not want to “rumble” at all. On the contrary, subconsciously you will feel the desire to imitate their pace.
Do regular morning exercises, if possible, do yoga or dancing, where stretching movements and relaxation of individual parts of the body predominate.
Do articulation exercises, for example, say tongue twisters with balls in your mouth, open your mouth wide, move your tongue over your lips and inside your mouth. You can easily find a lot of other useful exercises in the public domain.
visit a speech therapist or speech therapist, work out or consult with them

Read aloud women's novels, fairy tales, or psychological literature. You can record your voice at this time on a voice recorder and listen to it. Evaluate the sound as an outside observer.

How to develop competent speech?

Agree, it is more pleasant to listen to a person who knows how to construct sentences correctly. He speaks competently, that is, clearly, intelligibly, clearly formulates his thoughts into words, and emotionally colors his sentences. Such a person is respected and his opinion is listened to. He is in demand in any team.

The development of our speech literacy is influenced by:

quantity and quality of books read
the habit of listening to yourself and professional speakers in recordings
solving crossword puzzles to improve vocabulary
circle of friends. If you are surrounded by people with poor literacy skills, it is expected that you will also speak

How does speed affect the beauty of speech?

Chatterboxes, like slow ladies, strain their interlocutors.

A high speed of speech provokes a lack of understanding of both individual words and the overall meaning of what was said. Everything is mixed together without pause. The owner of a fast speech rate also suffers:

her thoughts are racing even faster than her spoken words
in the eyes of the interlocutor she sees misunderstanding and confusion
after communication feels dissatisfaction and irritability

Women who speak in a sing-song voice and who slow their pace excessively are reminiscent of Finns or Estonians. The interlocutor runs out of patience quite quickly, and unpleasant feelings arise that he is being spoken to as if he were a child or a narrow-minded person. He is nervous and tries to complete the dialogue as quickly as possible.

Therefore, the speed of speech should also be monitored, filled with appropriate pauses, and colored with emotional colors. For us women, it’s especially easy with the last point.

You can analyze your speech speed using, for example:

voice recorder
feedback from a friend whom you trust and accept criticism without offense

How to make your voice beautiful and attractive?

Many people, hearing a recording of their voice for the first time, feel scared and confused. “Is this how others hear me? Yes, this is not my voice at all!” - they think or say
To find out exactly what you sound like, ask your friends and family
And if there are nuances with insufficient beauty and attractiveness, then they can be eliminated
But remember - your voice is inextricably linked with your personality, essence, character. And by changing it, you will have to change yourself.

Here are some effective methods for changing your voice to a more attractive and beautiful one:

facial exercises, for example, strong mouth opening and vowel pronunciation
working out emotional intonations through voicing any phrase with different emotional colors, for example, angry, joyful, tired, playful, sexy. This also includes singing in gibberish. Believe me, you won't be able to sing monotonously on it.
developing the voice by humming vowel sounds with the mouth closed. This is how you release muscle tension in your body and find new reserves for your sound.
voice production. Regular lessons with a professional vocal teacher will give you correct breathing, feeling your body and the process of sound delivery, ability to speak with relaxed ligaments, tirelessness when working with a large audience
And another nice bonus - improved health, longer life. After all, opera singers were noticed in the lists of centenarians

How to make your voice pleasant?

refused or never had bad habits - smoking, alcohol, swearing
They can destroy not only your health, but also push other people away from communicating with you.
fill your speech with words of gratitude.
Agree, it’s more pleasant to help or ask a question to a person who knows how to thank
sincerely compliment others and say nice words.
Remember, D. Carnegie’s one of the principles of building friendly relations with others was based on the regular and appropriate use of compliments in speech
learned to speak with our stomachs.
This is a natural feminine way of presenting sound. So your vocal cords are relaxed, and you don’t feel tired after communicating
say the words as you exhale. Practice at home first so as not to shock your interlocutor
reduce your speech rate.
If you know about this feature of yours, it’s worth working with it. Chatting on business and without business is too stressful for anyone. But you don’t need to turn into an Estonian or a resident of Finland either
reduce the number of words to a reasonable level.
If there is no urgent need to answer, remain silent with a smile on your lips.
sing beautiful melodic songs, mantras or prayers. The song opens the invisible reservoirs of the soul for a harmonious exchange of energy with space. If you're stage shy, you'll love singing at home for yourself.
use simple verbal constructions without an excessive number of terms.
Sprinkling smart words is the norm for men. The simpler a woman speaks, the easier and more pleasant it is to communicate with her.
Regularly relax your body, for example, in yoga classes, Pilates, or sessions with a massage therapist
A man accumulates unlived emotions in his body, and a woman, thanks to her impressionability and tendency to empathy, even more so. Find an outlet for yourself where it will be easy for you to part with such “baggage”

Woman's voice and age

The first age-related changes in a woman's voice occur closer to 40 years of age; they are associated with a restructuring of hormones and the onset of menopause. However, owners of the middle range practically do not feel them; on the contrary, it seems to them that their voice has become brighter and sounds more beautiful.

Closer to 60 years old notes appear:

woman speaks in lower tones from her chest
atrophic processes are observed in the larynx
facial muscles lose elasticity and do not provide resonance
the muscles of the neck, shoulders and back weaken and are unable to maintain the strength and beauty of the voice

Hoarseness, trembling, and dryness appear in the sound of speech. They are partly the results colds, worsening in old age.

How to make your voice young?

If you are an employee of a television or radio company, a professional vocalist, or your activity involves communication, then you need to take care of your voice regularly.

You are contraindicated:

bad habits, hypothermia, stress, communication in a raised voice, frequent screaming

constant gymnastics and moderate physical activity
regular exercises to strengthen the voice and develop the diaphragm
tracking posture and relaxation of the muscles of the face, neck, shoulders, back
a gentle regime in the morning after waking up and during illness will preserve the ligaments, and therefore the voice
compliance with the work and rest regime, rules healthy eating, life away from noise and high-frequency vibrations
after 50 years of age, treatment is mandatory once a year vitamin complexes with groups B, A and zinc
plastic surgery is an expensive method, but quite realistic

We looked at the importance of owning and maintaining a voice, ways to change it and prolong youth.

Be healthy. Enjoy the sound of your unique voice and communication!

Video: how to make your voice attractive and beautiful?

It is believed that with a low voice she looks more attractive in the eyes. It seems that there is indeed some truth in this, but the point is not at all in the timbre of the voice itself: low or high, but in the various nuances associated with it. This was proven by the results of a recent study conducted by specialists from the University of Vienna.

Experiment to evaluate female voices

The authors of the experiment noted that the faces of the students whose voices were more often identified as " " were distinguished by symmetry of features; they tended to have high cheekbones, soft jawlines and full lips. According to experts, such an appearance indicates a good genotype, which also affects the synchronization of the vocal cords, larynx and nasal cavity. On a subconscious level, a man perceives a woman’s voice as a signal that everything is fine with her sexually, which means she can become a wife and mother.

Yes, pronouncing words with aspiration and special nuances may seem attractive. But in other cases, on the contrary, it can make a repulsive impression. And not only when it comes to the sphere of personal relationships. For example, statistics show that women with low and hoarse voices are less likely to get a job as a result of interviews. It turns out that many people perceive people with a “squeaky” voice as “unreliable.” Maybe because those with hoarse voices often smoke and have other bad habits.

Female voices and headhunters

A team of American psychologists once invited 800 headhunters to listen to recordings of various female voices and choose which one they would like to invite to. Only a fifth of respondents preferred women with hoarse voices. The rest commented on their choice by saying that a hoarse voice indicates low competence, lack of education and external unattractiveness.

"People prefer voices with vocal characteristics that are typical of the general population," the scientists said. "Although unusual voices may be more memorable, people find common-sounding voices more attractive."