Hello everyone! Almost everyone has had to complain about work: misunderstanding on the part of superiors or conflicts with colleagues make themselves felt. But if the irritation becomes constant, you should not ignore it. By carefully assessing the situation, you will find a solution! Today we are talking about what to do if you hate your job, how to cope with the situation and start living in harmony with yourself.

Reasons why people hate their jobs

Think about whether negative feelings are associated with a mistaken or being in the current team. When activities in the field are enjoyable, correcting the situation is not so difficult. Discomfort in this case is due to the following factors:

There is no opportunity to be creative.

While proven methods make getting things done easier, new solutions can produce exciting results. But not all employers are open to suggestions, so employees feel like robots performing a meaningless set of actions.

Your opinion is not listened to.

You don't get paid enough.

Many companies do not explain the principles of determining wages. When you feel that the effort expended is not being adequately compensated, zeal disappears.

You don't like your boss or team.

You are surrounded by nice people, but find mutual language fails. Increasing misunderstandings lead to conflicts, which affects productivity. As a result, you leave your comfort zone every day - in a bad way.

You are unhappy with the company's policies.

Inappropriate leadership style and disagreement with corporate rules cause many problems. There are no general standards in the field, because some people like small companies that provide flexible hours, while others want to work in a dynamic company with ambitious goals, even if they have to sacrifice free time.

Try to determine the cause of dissatisfaction, and finding a way out of the situation will become easier.

Mistake in choosing a field

If the profession is not to your liking, then changing it will cause a lot of trouble. If you find yourself in a similar situation, do not reproach yourself for a mistake you made at a young age. Ask your friends how they chose their specialty, and you will hear: “My parents insisted.” It happens that the older generation manages to correctly determine the inclinations of the offspring, but the example of the talented Mozart remains an exception. More often, by the age of 30, people realize that they are looking forward to the end of the working day, and consider salary the only reward for monotonous and unloved work. But you shouldn’t be discouraged, because at any age the picture can be changed.

What to do if you hate your job

It seems like a pleasant prospect, but not everyone can afford such luxury. It’s unlikely that you want to leave spectacularly and then spend months looking for a position! Instead of acting rashly, take a vacation, because discomfort can be caused by fatigue. If the irritation does not go away, take decisive action.

How to be positive

When you can't change the situation, try to look at it differently. Simple rules will help you:

Lead.

A day is not full of only troubles, because there is room for lunch with colleagues, a meeting with a grateful client, even just a cup of good coffee. Describe these moments, and quietly tune in for the best.

Rest during the day.

By immersing yourself in business and refusing to take a lunch break, you will provoke the appearance of. Find time for and walk to the nearest cafe to get some air and then satisfy your hunger.

Speak up more often.

Are you familiar with the situation when you did not approve of a decision made at a meeting, but preferred to remain silent? Express yourself by correctly formulating your point of view. Let them not start listening right away; your rightness will be noticed over time.

Chat with colleagues.

By grabbing a treat for tea, you will create a relaxed atmosphere and encourage others to start a conversation. Perhaps you will be able to establish contact, and your stay at the workplace will become more pleasant. Even if the plan fails, consider what each employee can teach you, such as professional experience, improved communication skills, or patience.

Make time for hobbies.

Returning home, you fall exhausted on the sofa and spend the evening in front of the TV, and then complain about your boring routine? The situation will change, you should start a hobby. Paradoxically, an activity that gives you pleasure will give you strength instead of depriving you of your last resource. Be it dancing, courses foreign languages or walks around the evening city, they will become an outlet after a difficult day.

Using these tips, you will improve your attitude to the situation!

How to get a promotion

When negativity is associated with pay, you should consider a raise. If your company has healthy relationships between employees and management, talking to the manager will help. Claims must be substantiated, so remind them of the scale of the completed projects, focusing on the benefits for the company. The result of the conversation may be an increase in financial remuneration or a transfer to a promising position with a good salary.

But what to do if you have not yet achieved career achievements? Put aside the conversation with management and improve your professional skills, which will bring additional points in the eyes of your superiors. By improving your qualifications, you will make useful contacts and improve your position in the labor market. Even if management does not appreciate your efforts, finding a suitable position will become easier.

How to prepare for dismissal

If you are in the mood for a change of place, you shouldn’t go “to nowhere”. First of all, you should determine whether you want to find a vacancy in a familiar field or are going to try yourself in a different field.

Mastering a new profession

Over the years, it becomes difficult to change the state of affairs, because you have to abandon the usual patterns. But get new profession You can do it at any age if you evaluate your existing skills and think about how to apply them to achieve your dreams. The optimal solution would be to master a related specialty, because your existing experience and knowledge of the nuances will allow you to navigate.

To completely change your activity, you will need to prepare: enroll in courses, master basic skills, combine new area with your current occupation. Master everything that is achievable without studying at a university, and you will understand when the time comes to part with the boring place. Finding yourself can be difficult, but don’t give up!

If possible, get an additional source of income, because many hobbies are profitable. If you've worked in a field you don't like for a long time, negative experiences can be demoralizing. But the profit received thanks to hobbies will remind you that you are able to support yourself without a disgusting activity. There is a possibility that over time the additional income will become the main one.

What to do before quitting

Are you looking for a new position? Prepare items in advance:

When you receive an invitation to a new position, leave with dignity. To avoid unpleasant situations, notify management of your dismissal 2 weeks in advance and submit your work on time. Even if relationships with colleagues or superiors were tense, thank everyone for their cooperation. Forget about grievances and focus on the new prospects that have opened up!

How does a job you hate affect a person?

If you have stayed too long in your position, the prospect of quitting causes uncertainty about the future. But even doctors do not recommend tolerating the unbearable state of affairs: studies conducted in the Australian national university, have proven that this psychological discomfort is fraught with stress, which becomes the cause of illness.

It leads to illnesses, and the person subconsciously does not want to get better. Suffering and gastrointestinal tract, because constant nervousness leads to gastritis. Problems with the cardiovascular system are also possible, so take care of your own comfort and prepare for a change of place.

Since you spend about 40 hours a week at work, it should be enjoyable. If you have tried your best to change your attitude towards your business, but have not achieved results, think about looking for a job. Sometimes it’s enough to draw up an action plan and strictly follow it so that you can find your dream job!

Now you know what to do if you hate your job. Leave comments, share your opinion on this matter and see you again!

To work without much desire. Many of them would prefer never to return there. The Village spoke with a tutor, a project coordinator, a construction coordinator and a designer about why their job is evil and what it's like buckwheat porridge and prostitution.

Ekaterina Frolova

private tutor, 22 years old

I teach Russian, English and literature to small boys from the sixth and seventh grade, as well as Italian language adults. My classes don't cost very much because I don't have higher education. I dropped out of the HSE philology department in my second year, and a couple of months later I left the MPGU philology department because I was yelled at in the classroom. Soon after that, I remembered that I was a goy, and entered the Maimonides State Academy on a budget. I’m still registered there, but I haven’t been going for a long time.

I never learned Italian, I just went to Italy every summer as a child and went to first grade there. To teach Italian, I read a couple of manuals, but I never studied English or literature additionally. Usually before class I read an article in the textbook and then retell it.

At the same time, I am a very good actress and always put on the most interested face. As a rule, my parents look at me as their salvation, and this makes me ashamed. I am ashamed that I work ineffectively, and I am always afraid that I will be burned, so I am very nervous in every lesson. In an hour of work, I emotionally torture myself as if I had worked a 12-hour shift. After work I don't want to talk to anyone. I could take a responsible approach to classes, but I don’t want to waste my time on it, I don’t have a dream of becoming the best tutor. I have been teaching for almost five years, but my teaching skill has hardly grown: I still feel insecure with students.

In an hour of work, I emotionally torture myself as if I had worked a 12-hour shift. After work I don't want to talk to anyone. I could take a responsible approach to classes, but I don’t want to waste my time on it, I don’t have a dream of becoming the best tutor

What I hate more than anything is when I show up for a lesson and am asked to do something I'm not ready for. The road also annoys me. I hate driving. Sometimes I’m lucky and a student lives next to my house, and sometimes I go to Yugo-Zapadnaya, to Mitino or, damn it, to Altufyevo. Many people drive to work every day, and it seems normal to them, but not normal for me.

I also hate the first lesson with a student, in which the parents look at me with an appraising look. I usually come in some kind of holey sweatshirt, but not because I’m homeless, but because I just wear such things. But then my parents listen to me talk and take me for normal. In principle, I hate communicating with my parents - they are like controllers on the bus.

I also get annoyed by children who make stupid jokes. And at such moments I have to put on a friendly face. During class, one of my students constantly spins a Rubik's cube, which rustles and creaks. But this is not surprising, because my classes are boring and suck.

I like to do nothing. But I need money to hang out, drink beer, buy myself drawing pencils and cheap clothes at H&M. I chose this particular job because I don’t want to work 40 hours a week, and a tutor earns as much per hour as a simple consultant gets for a 12-hour shift, that is, a mower.

You can easily earn 30 thousand by working seven to eight hours a week, but I don't do it because I'm lazy and because I get terribly stressed when interacting with students. The most difficult thing is to be strict with children. I adhere to a teaching system where the student and teacher are equal and on the same wavelength. We both communicate using either “you” or “you”. But this approach is only good for children who are really interested in knowledge. I always don’t give a damn about students and their grades, I work exclusively for the sake of the mower.

During classes, I constantly look at the clock and wait for it to be over. I often give tests because I don't like talking to children. If a student has not done his homework, I am happy because we will do it now. And I never check assignments at home - that’s what I still lacked.

Several years ago I worked with a sixth-grader who had a very angry mother, she constantly scolded him and slapped him on the head. At the same time, when I came, the boy wanted to just sit and do nothing. I told him that I don't care. During our supposed classes, I did his school homework for him, and then sat on the phone. On tests, he sent me photos of assignments, and I helped him, so it seemed like he was making progress. After some time, I refused to study with him; I became afraid that his mother would find out about the deception.

I don't work in the summer because it's not the season. In May I tell myself that I will no longer teach, that this is the last academic year when I'm doing this. The same thing happens after the New Year, when I also merge students and their parents. I don't answer their calls and just stop visiting them. However, in the end I still recruit new students, because it is very easy way to earn money. Almost like prostitution, although it is, of course, more complicated.

Before the New Year, I earn 40–50 thousand rubles a month, and after that many students drop out, and I earn less than twenty a month. I am supported by my husbands or someone else. Now I have three students, and I earn 16 thousand rubles - this is very little and is not worth the stress that I experience while working.

In principle, I respect any work. I respect the work of waiters, salespeople, janitors, cleaners, and so on - after all, I could have been in their place. My ideal job is one in which I don’t need to travel anywhere and don’t need to communicate with anyone. I don’t like to work at all, I only like creative action. I would love to become a carpenter and make stools and tables if I could. Soon I will take a sewing class and sew underwear for women. But first I need to save some money. I want to give up tutoring as soon as possible, I hope this Last year when I'm doing this.

Alexandra Biryukova

23 years old, project coordinator in a large international organization

Every Monday I wake up hating that another week has begun that is killing me. It seems to me that I am a function and in my place you can put any fagot who will do just as well. I have learned to perform the same set of functions and do not produce anything new anymore. Although before I had the feeling that I was doing something cool.

I studied at the Faculty of Journalism, and at the end of the third year I got a job as a project coordinator in a large international organization. Our department is engaged in research in the field information technologies, and I guide our projects through all stages of implementation. I have to make sure that certain speakers come to the conference we are organizing, so that they have hotel rooms and plane tickets. I also make sure that the venues have all the necessary equipment, and after the events I draw up a detailed report. In addition to conferences, we organize round tables, seminars, master classes, lectures, conduct research and publish books.

I came here because I was interested in this work, especially communication with foreigners and practice in English. Before that, I worked as a journalist, and at some point it began to seem to me that my work was not bringing results. Yes, I write and learn something new, but that’s where my activity ends. But here the situation is different. In addition, I immediately liked the team; intelligent, smart people work with me. That's why I'm ashamed that I hate my job, because it's not about my colleagues at all. There is another girl working in my position at the company, and she is a monster: everything is always thought out with her and there are no mistakes. Apparently she doesn't need to create and isn't tired of the work, so she does it well.

My hatred appeared after a year of work, when I realized that all my activities are insanely cyclical, they always follow a well-trodden rut. Each project means the same documents, the same calls and letters, the same problems. An ordinary day also becomes a cycle - I get up at six in the morning, I’m at work around ten, and from six to eight in the evening I go home.

When I first started to worry about the cyclicality and meaninglessness of my life, I took up Sambo. There I was emotionally discharged, and the day seemed more varied. But a year later I fell down the stairs, injured my leg and was out of training for a month. Then I got lazy and gave up completely.

I would compare my work to buckwheat porridge. It seems good and healthy, you can even eat it a couple of times a week without gagging, but it’s impossible to eat it all the time

During working hours, I often put off doing some things. I go drink coffee, clean up the office (even though I shouldn’t do that), water the flowers or change the toilet paper in the toilet. If I’m stupid on social networks, my bosses reprimand me. What annoys me the most is when there is no work, but I have to sit in the office.

The management is confused by some points. For example, they know that I don't like working with documentation. When asked whether I like my job in general, I answer yes. But there has never been a serious conversation on this topic.

I’m depressed about my attitude towards work, because I know people who come to the office early, and they are inspired: “New day, new victories, new achievements!” And I say to myself: “***** [damn], it’s a new day again, when will I die? Why am I only 23, why not 70, when I’m already retired?”

I get 50 thousand rubles, and that’s enough for me. I would compare my work to buckwheat porridge. It seems good and healthy, you can even eat it a couple of times a week without gagging, but it’s impossible to eat it all the time. When people ask me what I do, I answer that I am a project coordinator. If they then ask what I do, I answer: “I coordinate projects.” After this, the person understands that work is not the topic on which I want to communicate. Even when I drink tea with my colleagues, we talk about anything but work issues.

Sometimes I think: maybe I don’t hate this particular job, but any job and the entire capitalist system in which it is necessary to endlessly survive? This will sound pompous now, but man, according to the Bible, is created in the image and likeness of God, because he, like God, can create. And now we don’t have time for this creativity.

If I hate this particular place of work, then it is curable, and I just need to find myself in another field. But maybe I’m basically not cut out for work. Then it's bad, it's a clinic.

I think at some point I'll just get up and leave. I don’t know when this will happen, but I should still have enough for six months. And now I’m not leaving because I’m afraid to exchange an awl for soap.

Maria Stalevarova

(first and last name changed at the request of the heroine)

26 years old, construction site coordinator in a state company

I graduated from a Moscow university with a degree in surveyor-engineer, after which I worked at a construction site for two years in my specialty. After some time, I realized that construction was not my thing, and I went to work in commercial real estate - I was involved in putting objects into operation. While the house is being built, I do all sorts of paperwork, and at the end I prepare a package of documents for its delivery. Over time, the company where I worked began to delay wages and a crisis ensued. After some time, I got married and realized that I would soon have to go on maternity leave, but with an unstable salary and no prospects, I didn’t want to do this.

Then I started looking for another job and in September 2017 I found this company, which, as I was assured at the interview, was private. In fact, it turned out that we are a state company and are under the construction department. My job is to supervise objects: monitor deadlines, write a lot of letters and control the construction process.

All document flow takes place in a special computer program, and I have to record every step I take. I accepted a task for work - I must unsubscribe, I talked to someone - I must unsubscribe, I wrote some letter - I must unsubscribe. To send a letter to some authority, I need to get it endorsed by two bosses, then by the proofreaders, then by the deputy general director, then again by the proofreaders, and then by the general director. My record is to approve a letter in two hours, the anti-record is more than a month.

The average letter that I have to approve can be read in five minutes, if it’s a contract - in 15. But all the bosses are supposedly very busy, and they don’t have a few minutes to open the email. Although, I think only half of these people really have a lot of work.

Because of bureaucracy, all work is slowed down. For example, contractors are waiting for certain documentation, and if it is not sent to them on time, the completion date of construction is delayed. And this happens all the time. The hardest thing is when you need to solve a problem within an hour, but I have no influence on the speed of its solution.

We have a rule that “while the boss is sitting, the subordinates should also be sitting.” It is believed that if you leave on time, it means you have little work to do.

When I first started working, the person who interviewed me quit, and my boss became another more experienced and mature man, with whom it was difficult for me to communicate. Employees in the company communicate in groups, but during my work I did not make friends with anyone. And in general, conversations on personal topics are not welcome here - only on work matters. But at my old job my colleagues and I were big family. For example, if someone was having a renovation, we would help him choose plaster together.

At my previous job, the salary was higher, but during the interview at this company they assured me that once a quarter they would give a bonus of two salaries, and there would also be a semi-annual and annual bonus - from four to seven salaries. Moreover, they told me that bonuses have been issued consistently for many years, they are never delayed or cancelled. However, it turned out that the annual bonus depends on performance. And not a specific department, but the entire company. In 2017, fewer social facilities were built than planned, so no one received a bonus. The semi-annual bonus turned out to be only one, not two, and the quarterly bonus was also only one. And their sizes are much smaller than promised, from a salary to two.

I usually wake up at 06:30 and arrive at the office by 08:40. Despite the fact that the working day begins at nine, almost all employees are already at their desks by 08:30. It is also considered bad form to go home before half past six in the evening, although you can leave at six. We have a rule that “while the boss is sitting, the subordinates should also be sitting.” It is believed that if you leave on time, it means you have little work to do. Asking for time off is not welcome. Here everyone works for the benefit of the company, “we are a government agency, we are on a salary.” When I told my boss that we couldn’t cope and we needed a new employee, he replied that he wasn’t keeping anyone.

An hour is allocated for lunch, but there is so much work that there is simply no time to eat. I'm afraid that with this diet I'll soon get an ulcer. I always come home nervous and continue to worry about work. It's so exhausting that I literally don't want anything. Usually my husband and I watch a movie, I read a book a little and quickly fall asleep, otherwise it will be very difficult to wake up the next morning.

Due to such working conditions, the company has a high staff turnover. In the four months that I've been working here, four of my colleagues have quit. I'm the only one left from the old lineup. In December, I clearly understood that it was time to leave. I can't post a public resume because the company's security service will track it within 24 hours. But I'm looking through vacancies - I hope there will be more by the end of February. Or maybe I'll just go nowhere. The boiling point is already close.

Stanislav Rozhkov

29 years old, designer at a restaurant holding company

My worst day at work happens every day. I constantly get new tasks that I write in a notepad, but it’s impossible to do everything. At the end of the day, I shift some tasks to the next one. And so on endlessly. Our holding opens new restaurants, but there are no more designers. Previously, I could read a book for an hour at work, but now it’s completely impossible to imagine.

The most disgusting thing is when everyone wants to get something from me at once. I'm busy doing something, and people come to me and say that they need to do some bullshit right now, and let everyone else wait. And they also write letters marked “Urgent” and six exclamation points. And sometimes several people do this at once. Previously, I tried to do everything quickly and please everyone, but after the New Year I behave like a sloth and simply say: “Yes, yes, yes, I understand you, leave me alone, I’m busy.” I just don't have the strength.

There are about ten restaurants in our holding, and each has its own design and decoration. I do the layout of the menus of all the company's restaurants, as well as create layouts for posters and flyers, and sometimes design packaging. At first I liked everything, but after a month I was faced with many tasks not related to design: ordering folders for the menu, buying supplies, children’s coloring books, boxes for candy and a bunch of other work that was not discussed at the interview. This is more like the job of a storekeeper-manager. Of course, the designer’s task may include choosing paper for printing, but I definitely shouldn’t be involved in document management.

I don’t even know what I want to do anymore.

I would like to work in a coffee shop with three tables and make coffee there

When I came to work here, we had four designers on our team, and everything was fine. But soon we were left alone, and then just the two of us. It's half past ten in the evening, and I'm just leaving work. I'm late every day, and I don't get paid extra for delays. But this is different and no way, unless, of course, you want to receive 500 angry messages on WhatsApp. Naturally, it bothers me that I leave work late. When I got a job here, I planned to study German in the evenings, but at ten o’clock, of course, no one needs me with my German.

I don’t even know what I want to do anymore. I would like to work in a coffee shop with three tables and make coffee there. I'm tired and don't quite understand the meaning and role of design in this business. I don’t understand how important it is, for example, how it affects the customers’ attitude towards the menu. I spend a lot of time developing it, but never get feedback.

For the company, my partner and I are not of great value - the focus is on growing good chefs, for whom all conditions are created, because they are the engine that really makes money. And they pay me 80 thousand rubles. If we divide this amount by the number of restaurants in our holding, it turns out that I don’t earn that much.

Today I was walking home from work and thought that I forgot to send the completed work during the day and that I needed to change the frame in the layout of one of the menus. And when I go to work, I don’t have any thoughts in my head at all - I just listen to music. I used to curse my job every morning and think that I would quit tomorrow, but I recently stopped doing that. Maybe I've resigned myself, I don't know. This is probably the influence of winter; if it were summer now, I would have left long ago.

“I’m emotionally burnt out at work”—this is the verdict people increasingly pronounce on themselves. This even becomes a good excuse for frequent sick leave or a reason for dismissal. Most people by and large do not understand what “emotional burnout” is. Many people identify irritation, body pain, and bad mood at work with it.

But in fact, this is a severe functional condition, which has many side effects, and to get rid of them, a long recovery period is needed.

What is “burnout syndrome”?

Burnout syndrome is a regression of professional development. A person experiences negative emotions, tension, internal psychological conflicts, psychosomatic reactions from prolonged stress at work. This syndrome is experienced by healthy people whose work involves intense and constant professional communication. These are professions of the “person-to-person” type: workers in the education system, medical workers, social workers, and the service sector.

“Emotional burnout” includes three mandatory symptoms:

emotional exhaustion;
indifference to work;
devaluation of professional achievements.

Emotional exhaustion is characterized by feeling tired from work. The person is indifferent to responsibilities. Looking at such people, one gets the impression that they have no strength left to experience “real” emotions.

Indifferent attitude towards work. A person communicates formally, even dismissively, with clients, partners, and the team. In the medical, educational and service fields, a person is only superficially interested in the needs and problems of those with whom he works.

In sales, for example, “understanding customer needs” and “after-sales service” are ignored. It's too energy-intensive. It all comes down to a formal procedure: “If you want, buy and pay. If you don’t want to, then goodbye.” Irritation tends to build up, so it's no surprise that conflicts with clients are becoming common.

Devaluation of professional achievements. A person develops a feeling of professional incompetence and professional unsuitability. All achievements and successes in work are devalued. And personal skills and abilities seem so primitive that even a schoolchild can master them.

It is a mistake to mistake irritation and lack of desire to go to work for emotional burnout.

If an employee feels a lack of energy, a decrease in mood, and an unwillingness to perform duties, but a weekend or vacation is enough for him to get in shape, then this is ordinary fatigue. With emotional burnout, a person needs a long period to recover. However, after returning to work, the state of burnout is sure to return. Change of gender professional activity is often the only way out of this state.

Remember that the feeling of fatigue is not accompanied by devaluation of yourself as a professional, a cynical attitude towards work and clients, unlike emotional burnout. The employee loves his profession, values himself as a specialist, respects clients, but at a particular period he needs rest.

Causes of burnout syndrome

Individual personality characteristics

Perfectionists and people with high levels of aspirations are more susceptible to emotional burnout. This category of people who strive to perform duties perfectly and on time, without making mistakes. They always set difficult goals and do not look for easy ways. If there is a discrepancy between the requirements for oneself and the real result, then self-esteem falls and disappointment in oneself as a professional sets in.

Highly anxious people and people oriented toward external evaluation are at risk.

People with high levels of anxiety worry about literally every little thing, are overly concerned about the future outcome, and make negative forecasts. Life turns into sheer excitement.

People focused on external evaluation believe that they are doing useful work for society and only those around them can evaluate the results. They have no personal standards by which to determine how well or poorly their duties are performed. Unkind reviews, ratings or views from clients make them doubt their professional suitability every time.

These are specialists whose work involves daily and intensive communication with people. Many companies put customer focus in the first place, requiring employees to have an individual approach to everyone, hyper-politeness, hyper-communication, and hyper-helpfulness. All this takes a lot of energy and strength. Moreover, clients are all different, and it is not always possible to please everyone.

Operating factors

Lack of independence, moral and material encouragement, hypercontrol by management, suppression of initiative, cause negative emotional reactions among employees. After all, in this way managers hinder their professional and career development.

Factors such as the lack of a well-equipped workplace, comfortable lunch breaks and vacations, and opportunities to communicate with colleagues create discomfort, which ultimately leads to burnout.

How to cope with “emotional burnout”

Step 1. Professional self-reflection

Any solution to a problem begins with its awareness. It is important for a person to accept that work is disgusting. And then find out the reasons: what led to such a state? The content of the work itself, the company, the manager, the conditions? When the reason is clear, the person will have a clear idea of whether the problem can be solved, how long it will take, and how radical measures need to be taken.

Step 2. Go on vacation/move to another department/leave the company

In my opinion, some of this is bound to happen. It is important to distance yourself from the problem either for a while or completely. Vacations, for example, are a good diagnostic tool to understand whether you are truly burnt out or just tired.

Some companies offer the opportunity to transfer employees to a similar/related department. The responsibilities remain the same, only the environment changes. Work has begun to boil in a new way, there is satisfaction and changes for the better - which means the problem was in external conditions. If even in a new place the work is exhausting, does not bring satisfaction, and the above-described triad of symptoms is observed, this means burnout.

Let’s say you went on vacation, worked in another department, and your work is still exhausting and annoying - change your field of professional activity. Perhaps you have established yourself as a specialist and need career growth.

Or, on the contrary, professional growth is needed. When a set of responsibilities is constant and predictable, you begin to perform them automatically. They need to be expanded and complicated periodically to prevent professional regression.

It is quite possible that you do not match the psychological qualities of your profession (for example, introverts work as active sales managers, and extroverts are specialists in issuing primary documents), that is, you are unsuitable for the profession. And there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just time to really do your own thing.

You can offer standard advice like: delegate responsibilities, separate your personal and professional lives, get more rest. But I am convinced that all this will not save you from the problem of burnout, but will only create a temporary and illusory attempt to solve it.

The article was prepared by psychologist, recruitment and personnel development specialist Anastasia Teteruk:

“If you can’t cope with problematic situations at work, don’t know how to behave with your boss or team, don’t know how to effectively organize your work day, write to [email protected]. I will definitely share my recommendations both as a psychologist and as a personnel specialist.”

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all day you look at the clock and hope that time will speed up;
avoid corporate events, holidays andevents outside of work;
you don't just not I like the team- you dream from get rid of him;
don't talk about work friends andavoid questions;
you are ambitious, but you just sit back at work;
you feel like an unhappy person.

Do you recognize yourself? The more you think aboutwhat's happening, the better you understand: is not it do you want to live or something goes wrong So.

You can ignore the situation: endure, get angry andhate every day. Or admit the obvious- keeps a big salary, habit or fear of something new and unknown.

Stop waiting for a sign

Not a dream job will find you herself, andthe best leader is not will ring the doorbell. You find a hundred reasons, put off life and stand on place. Why suffer? How many years of your single life have youready to go down to nowhere? If you can't leave work right now, you have a loan or three children, then start with small: post your resume, tell your friends that you are looking for a job.

Hate work andthink it's better not you will find - erroneous opinion. It's like convincing yourself that after breaking up withIt's impossible to meet another guy.

Find the reason for your dissatisfaction

It doesn’t happen that there is no work I like everything. Usually satisfied with the salary, butAnnoyed by responsibilities. Or nowant to work ina team where they like to gossip. It is necessary to understand this before a new interview.

What are you moving away from and towards? what do you want to come?

Record audio andtell me in detail what is notlike. What causes hatred? The work itself? Supervisor? Culture incompanies? Listen to yourself parties and find a clear answer.

Start saving money

Create a financial cushion. The sooner you approachthis issue, the faster you protect yourself from fears and risks. Money will be needed forjob search time. Decide in advance when you will quit and don't deviate from the date. Don't be distracted by external factors: bonuses, promotions andother. Agree toshort-term bonuses or a happy life?

When work makes you sick, it's not will pay for the one-time increase tosalary or New Year's gift. Save at least 10%every salary, save on expenses.

Relax or take a vacation

Forget about the usual two weeks. Rest as long as you need man - talk to explain to him that you want to gain strength. Are you supporting yourself? Set aside the required amount of money (see.previous point). Youyou can choose your job and do not agree to the first offer.

List your strengths

Take an inventory of experience: knowledge, education, strengths, achievements- increased confidence, andself-esteem will increase. Draw two columns: infirst write out 10–15 achievements - professional, creative, sports. Mention everything you like to do. For example meI write interesting texts, I run every day, I know French, great joke.” Create a professional portrait fromstrengths. Indicate even if you are preparing a delicious charlotte- many don't know how to do this.

In In the second column, write down the qualities that helped you. INWhat is your strength: discipline, hard work or cunning?

Understand on what qualities will you rely on?critical situation.

Find your "gaps"

Let's talk not only about the advantages. You understand what you can do andwhat kind of job do you want? What notenough to get into point B? Do you dream about international business trips or internships in States? If not speak Englishis your space and hardly something will work out. Or do you want to work as a business assistant, butYou're always late. Hardlythe potential manager will be pleased.

Understanding your weaknesses is sometimes more important than your strengths. You Not will demand that you be paid 100 000 rubles because you are a good person.

Stop comparing yourself to others

Free yourself from stereotype of a prestigious profession, status andother things. Reply to question: “Who am I? like a professional? Do you like to make coffee andcommunicate? Learn tobarista! What difference does it make that there are entrepreneurs all around? freelancers? You won't even remember this when you start the morning in coffee shop, and you will love your work. Forget the restrictions of serious professions, age andeducation. This will be important when youwill you become happy?

Create a quality resume

Summary - this is an arrow that flies toa specific goal. Write down your list of priorities. Abstract goals "to be rich andhappy" existeveryone. What do you need? Cool team, close location tohome, social package?

Make a list of 25–30companies where you want to work. There are organizations that do notlooking for employees foropen resources. Show initiative andSend your resume out purposefully, and Not engage in passive search.

We choose a job and Not she us. Do you live infree time, when talent is more important, and Not diploma. An economist becomes a TV presenter, and sociologist - stylist. People change professions inany age. You can earn money online, be an employee, or work for myself.

Set a goal not to find a job, but to realize yourself in what you love.

Don't think about money first of all, and how about a good bonus.

Choose: receive 100 000 rubles and hate every day or start with 60,000 rubles and love work. Leave the business that is destroying you, find an area where talents will manifest themselves, andyou will see the result for yourself.

Text: Oksana Laryushkina

Regardless of the reasons why one thought about work causes a whole range of negative feelings and thoughts, we can rarely give up everything and go “nowhere” in search of a better place.

The best place still needs to be found, and if you really hate your current position, then this search should not be postponed.

However, until the dream job is found, we are forced to endure what we have. And we hope that the tips below will help make a difficult situation at least a little more acceptable.

Assess the situation

This seems obvious, but when we plunge headlong into strong negative experiences and feel sorry for ourselves, we often simply do not want to calm down and evaluate the situation rationally.

Meanwhile, understanding what exactly makes us so unhappy is critically important.

Therefore, first of all, calm down and ask yourself a few unpleasant simple questions, honest answers to which will help you understand the current situation.

— Do you hate your position or your boss?

— What exactly in the content of your work or in the behavior of your management makes you want to send everything to hell?

— Did you ever enjoy this job at all?

— Did you like any of your work?

It's clear that banal self-analysis is not what you hope for in the first place. Nevertheless, the answers to these important questions will become the foundation for real steps to overcome an unenviable situation, because they will help clear your mind of unnecessary emotions and focus.

Decide to have a serious conversation

Once you understand what part of your professional life is fueling your hatred for it, try discussing specific problems with those who you believe can resolve the situation.

Even if in the end it turns out that it is impossible to resolve the situation and it will not get better for you, you will bring clarity.

— Do you feel like you work too much and no one appreciates it?

— Do you always find yourself on the edge?

— Do you have someone else's responsibilities assigned to you?

— Do you think it’s time to increase your bonus, but no one even thinks about it?

If your boss is a sane person, and you are a valuable employee, it makes sense that there are real problems, sometimes this not only clarifies the situation, but also removes contradictions.

Often " life cycle The worker's page looks something like this:

Masha gets a job and gets used to it for a while. The machine manager observes this process and sees that everything is going well.
But at one fine moment, Masha, out of the blue, writes a statement and resentfully explains (and, as a rule, behind her boss’s back) how unhappy she felt all this time.

Yes, a good leader should care about and help his team, but he absolutely should not be able to read your mind. Seriously! Therefore, make an effort and discuss your troubles and grievances with your boss.

You hate this job anyway. If yours and he don’t care or he will be offended in response and your problems will only get worse, this will give you a reason not to delay finding a new place.

“Stay positive” is one of the most irritating pieces of advice when dealing with extreme dissatisfaction with your life circumstances. Moreover, the benefits are not as obvious as has been considered for decades in courses to increase self-esteem.

Meanwhile, you definitely shouldn’t paint yourself into a corner. If you hate what you do, it's easy to feel sorry for yourself and wallow in negativity, counting down the minutes until the end of the day when you can finally leave this hell hole. But this attitude to the situation, unfortunately, does not make it any easier. On the contrary, it will only get worse.

Instead of perceiving every working day as hard labor, try to perceive this entire story as a challenge and an excellent opportunity to improve your professional skills. Even if you hate your job because it's boring and stupid. The trick here is which skills? we're talking about. When else will you get the chance to practice endurance and patience for 8 hours straight!

Complain to your friends

In general, take a reliable friend and talk to him about your problems (as compensation for moral damage, you can treat your friend to his favorite drink), and then, you see, you will feel better.

Do your job flawlessly

When you're unhappy, the easiest thing to do is give up and stop trying to accomplish your goals. job responsibilities to a minimum. In this regard, our last advice looks paradoxical, but only at first glance.

Overwhelm, procrastination and sabotage will not make you happier, and a job well done is always a job well done. It lifts your spirits and gives you confidence. You personally, not the job you hate.