What is the ideal person? Many people strive for a certain standard, they try to become what they are not. The modern obsession with beauty standards is a good example. Women even have exact measurements up to a centimeter (90 - 60 - 90), and men must certainly be pumped up and brutal.
Standards are everywhere. There are standards of earnings, standards of professional success, standards of beauty, standards of humor, and so on. These standards set the tone for our entire life. There are not many people who can give a damn about all this, because we are social beings.
Many people go from one extreme to another, sometimes trying to meet the standards 100%, sometimes completely denying them.
The ideal person, does he exist?
I remembered one story, unfortunately I don't remember where I read it. The bottom line is as follows. After the Second World War, the Americans ordered a study on what ergonomics should be in the cockpit: distance to the steering wheel, seat height, arrangement of instruments, etc.
Scientists immediately conducted a study, carried out measurements at hundreds of pilots and made a list of the average size of a human body, such an "average pilot" .. It would seem that the task is completed. However, there was one scientist who decided to check what percentage of pilots fit the description of this "average". And do you know what happened? He found none. After that, the cockpits are configured only for a specific pilot.
This example illustrates well that there is no norm. Moreover, it does not exist, not only in the physical sense, but also in the intellectual, social, and so on. Each of us is a kind of unique unit, with a completely individual set of properties.
The ideal person does not exist, but there are standards and they should not be neglected.
Standards
Each person has his own set of individual qualities. But this does not mean that we should neglect these qualities, since all the same there are no two identical people.
On the contrary, one should be guided by these qualities. But in what cases? Only in cases where itexpedient and justified.
For example, it makes no sense to recruit people with low intelligence to nuclear scientists. In this case, a certain border of intellectual abilities must be drawn, a certain standard, below which one cannot go down in the selection to this profession.
The same goes for beauty standards. For example, it is advisable and justified that the model recruits thin and tall women with certain facial features. But it must be remembered that fashion designers choose just such women because the clothes look good on them, and not because they are perfect.
However, due to the fact that our world has become strongly informationally connected, a strange effect has turned out. People have access to almost any information. If a person finds out that in modeling business observed high standards on the appearance of models, a person begins to perceive the appearance of these standards as ideal. Otherwise, why selection? Although in fact they are not, but simply meet the standards of the profession.
It is the same with earnings standards. Take business for example. To be successful in it, you must have a certain set of personal properties. However, it must be remembered that these business standards are also not ideal, but simply meet the parameters set by the profession of a businessman. It seems to us that since they earn more, then they are somehow better than us. This is not true. They earn more just because their profession involves money transactions.
It may seem that I am trying to devalue ideals. In fact, this is not so, they are needed, but not in order to correspond to them, but to give us a coordinate system so that we can navigate what qualities are necessary for a certain activity.
Advantages and disadvantages
Each of us has our own set of qualities. Each person has qualities that make him or her superior to others. There are also qualities that we are not sufficiently developed.
The ideal person is one who has all the qualities developed to the maximum extent. Of course, there is no such person.
What should we do? If we want to be the most effective (not ideal), we need to identify our strengths and weaknesses. This is done only empirically. After that, each person faces a creative task that should answer the following questions.What activity makes the most of our strengths and does not affect the weak? What is the most successful behavior strategy in my business?
If a person can find answers to these two questions, then he can be successful. If he begins to realize himself without looking at his qualities, and focusing on the ideal, then most likely he will be disappointed.
The same goes for our expectations. Expecting the other person to live up to the ideal is somewhat unreasonable.
There was a perfect person. He met the perfect woman and they had a perfect romance, which culminated in a perfect wedding ceremony, after which the perfect family life began.
On the eve of Christmas, a snowstorm broke out that caught the perfect couple on the way.
They drove along a winding road on which Santa Claus stood alone in complete despair with a bag of gifts. Since they were the perfect couple, they stopped and asked him to get in the car. Unfortunately the weather conditions ...
A woman who follows these rules in her life, accepts them and fulfills them every day - will definitely find herself next to a real man who will love her with all her heart and desire her with all her being.
She does not change at the whim of other people, because she values herself and always remains herself;
She does not part with her dreams just because someone does not like her ideas, she seeks to fulfill her dreams, and not forget about them;
She is not afraid of love, although she knows ...
If this article caught your attention, you can assume that you are dissatisfied with something and intend to get rid of the feeling that bites you. How do you become happy? Let's stop being deceived, to be honest, at least once, taking off fashionable rose-colored glasses - it is impossible to become happy.
We recommend setting aside your backpack as a traveler in search of happiness. How so? Why give us hope? Indeed, dear reader, this is not the pessimism of the author of the article, but logically justified ...
Man is a brightly colored energy system full of dynamic aspirations. Like any energy system, he constantly tries to find a state of peace. He has to do it. For this, energy serves, its mysterious function - to restore its own balance.
Man is designed in such a way that with any internal or external irritation, sooner or later such an incident must occur that will restore balance.
Out of balance ...
Man is a strange creature ... Reason was given to him only to make it easier for a man to fulfill his destiny. Why else? Can there be any other task for Providence, except this one - to help a person on his Path?
But how does a person use his mind? ..
He asks: what is the Path? and what is a craft? why should I follow it? and how long to walk on it? and what I get for this? what is the purpose? but how to understand that this is the right way? how could I ...
New century, new time, new opportunities. But how do you define a new path? Of course, you should honestly look around, soberly assess reality, and even better look really into your own eyes. Find yourself in all its glory and somehow relate to it.
Here I am, a man of the XXI century. I am such and such. I am active and passive, deceitful and truthful, brave and cowardly, moral and depraved, irritable and restrained ...
You will certainly find your portrait here. And you say ...
Every girl has probably imagined the image of her husband since childhood. Ideal in her mind.
It is clear that the ideals of husbands for different young ladies are completely different. And at the same time, there are common features. What kind of husband would most Russian women want to see next to them?
Understanding perfectly well that one should not embody the stereotype: if you want to marry a handsome, intelligent and rich man, you will have to marry three times.
I think that every woman dreams of one and only beloved man ...
Do you think that the ideal husband is the one who doesn't drink, doesn't hit his wife and brings home the entire salary? Nothing like this! A man who does not meet at least one of the above criteria is generally not suitable for husbands. He can be called a partner, roommate, tormentor or curse, but not a husband.
We are talking about an average spouse, positive and not abusing anything. To find out how close to perfection he is, psychologists have developed clear criteria by which to evaluate him ...
At first glance, the formula is simple: in order to be an ideal couple, you have to become one. Criterion perfect couple will be the sum of indicators of the quality of relations between two people. But what indicators can be judged ...
As long as there has been a person, there have been so many debates about what human life is, what it should be. According to philosophers, psychologists, culturologists, and simply not indifferent people, life is more than just eating food, going to bed on time, washing the bones of Marya Ivanovna from the accounting department or moving to a new level even in the most exciting computer game.
You can rise above everyday life, make your life active, bright, full of interesting events, if you understand and imagine what you live for, adhere to certain values. What exactly to focus on in life, everyone decides for himself. The ideals of life different people may differ. At the same time, there are also universal human values (truth, goodness, beauty, love for one's neighbor), to which everyone should be involved.
Throughout history, people have developed different ideas about what ideals are and what an ideal person should be.
The ideal of man in culture
Ideas about the essence of man are not the same in the cultures of different historical eras.
Ancient world
For the first time, people began to think about a person in time immemorial. So, the ancient Greek philosophers considered the concept of kalokogatiy, the essence of which was self-knowledge and perfection. Aristotle paid special attention to the fact that a perfect person adheres to moral norms, does not allow himself to commit bad deeds and strives for beauty for the sake of beauty.
Middle Ages
In the Middle Ages, the ideal of man was considered in the context of serving God. It was believed that perfection is achieved through discipline, meekness, obedience, asceticism. This ideal of upbringing was preached by the ministers of the church. However, at this time, the natural sciences also developed, education gradually acquired a secular character, respectively, the ideas about a person, his capabilities, also changed. It was believed that a person can master the secrets of nature and acquire new knowledge based on experience.
Another ideal of man during this period was the noble and valiant knight. Knights united in orders, created their own codes of honor, organized tournaments. Each knight had his own "Beautiful Lady" (real or imagined), to whom victories on the lists and feats performed were dedicated to her.
Renaissance
Ideas about the omnipotence of man developed during the Renaissance (Renaissance). At the forefront is a person from the point of view of his nature and capabilities. But people still realized that not everything depends on them, and this contributed to the emergence of ideas about freedom and necessity. Similar views existed in the era of Antiquity, but now they are actively rethought and implemented.
During this period, the relationship between man and God is explained in a different way. It is still believed that God created man, but man from birth is endowed with activity, the desire to transform the world and himself, therefore he can and must become the master of his life. At the same time, the initial ideas about the differences between people are formed.
New time
In the era of the Enlightenment, the formation of ideas about the ideal of man was influenced by German classical philosophy. So, Immanuel Kant wrote that the main thing in life is to be able to use your mind. The ideal of that time was a reasonable man, built according to the laws of logic and capable of changing the world according to reason. People of this era still believe in God, but ideas of free thinking appear in the minds of some of them.
With the development of capitalism, a working person becomes ideal, and labor discipline, diligence, professionalism and relatively healthy competition become true values.
Ideal Soviet man Is a hero. In those years, the utopian idea of building communism was actively promoted, and for this building one had to be "always ready", that is, to fight, to go forward at the expense of one's own desires, needs, or even at the cost of one's life. A similar view of reality was demonstrated by the example of pioneer heroes, foremost workers in production and other individuals who are able to sacrifice themselves to achieve a common goal.
However, such ideas about the ideal person were rather official. In reality, the ideal was conscience, when it is much more important to "be" rather than "to have." People helped each other, shared their last piece of bread, empathized not only with relatives and friends. However, life in conditions of fear, repression, and restrictions on freedoms was also a kind of heroism.
Man in the culture of different nations
Ideas about the ideal of a person depend on the living conditions of a particular people and are reflected in the works of folklore: fairy tales, legends, traditions, epics, songs. So, a Russian girl is certainly a beauty, for the Circassians (and not only for them), the main thing in a person is his honor and dignity. The peoples of the Caucasus are famous for their hospitality, and the Chukchi are famous for their hunting skills. But, whatever the differences, all peoples agree on one thing: the ideal of man is national hero possessing good health, fortitude, intelligence, hard work, courage and responsiveness.
The ideal of man in art
Historically formed ideas about the ideal of man are reflected in works of art.
Antiquity
The ideas of this period about the perfect man are embodied in the statues of gods, heroes and Olympic winners. In fact, the ancient Greek gods were ideal people, and people were like gods. The statue of Myron "Discobolus" is widely known. The prototype of the sculpture is a real man, strong, healthy and self-confident, as befits a true citizen of Greece.
The unlimited possibilities of man were glorified by Sophocles, Homer and other poets. The image of a wonderful hero, a bearer of moral ideals, was also demonstrated in the ancient Greek theater.
Medieval art
As mentioned above, the church had a great influence on the life of people in the Middle Ages. Therefore, in contrast to the ancient tradition, a person was understood as a blade of grass, a grain of sand, a small particle of the Universe, subject to the will of God. Similar views are reflected in works of art: it is not the person himself who rises, but the spiritual power that makes him related to God. A vivid example of the ideal of man in the art of the Middle Ages is the iconographic image of Job, a sick biblical character who resignedly accepts the will of God.
Somewhat later, ideas about a person became more optimistic. Gradually, the image of a worker, creator, creator begins to form in the minds of people. Labor is no longer perceived as a punishment for sins, but as the main responsibility of a person. These views are reflected in the images of Christ the Martyr, the description of his life on Earth. Jesus Christ on the canvases of the painters of those years personifies a humiliated, suffering, but in essence divine person.
Man in Renaissance Art
During the Renaissance, artists were no longer interested in the divine, but in the earthly essence of people. Art is gradually becoming secular, and the methods of creating portraits and works of fine art of other genres are scientifically substantiated. This leads to the fact that the person on the canvases of the masters becomes natural. The viewer can determine the character and mood of the hero of the picture. An example of this is the world famous "Mona Lisa" by Leonardo da Vinci.
Despite the development of the ideas of humanism, the masters of the Renaissance continued to use religious themes, but the images of Christ, the apostles and the Virgin Mary were more reminiscent of real people. Probably, this was done in order to show a person his essence through well-known plots. So, Raphael, in the image of the Sistine Madonna, embodied beautiful woman who loves and worries about her son.
A man of new times
During the Age of Enlightenment, realistic art continued to develop. The replacement of the feudal system by the capitalist one, the development of industry contribute to the emergence of the so-called new breed of people. A person becomes more down-to-earth, preoccupied with his own problems, but at the same time, educated, trying to use his own mind to solve life problems. This is how he is shown in pictures and in literary works... An example is the canvases of Zh.B. Chardin, W. Hogarth, A. Watteau, treatises by Diderot, Rousseau, novels by I.S. Turgenev, L.N. Tolstoy, F.M. Dostoevsky, etc.
The image of a person in socialist realism
IN Soviet times from pictures, campaign posters Shock workers, advanced collective farmers, noble milkmaids, caring mothers of families watched people on TV screens. Representatives of the authorities positioned the USSR as a country in which there is no exploitation of man by man, and people show heroism exclusively voluntarily, guided by the desire to build a bright future as soon as possible. Therefore, in the art of socialist realism, the worker became the ideal. In addition, a Soviet person should have a prosperous family, good TRP performance, as well as excellent combat and political training.
All of the above is reflected in the paintings of P. Smurkovich "On Ski", V. Kutilin "The First Field", T. Yablonskaya "Bread", poems by V. Mayakovsky, A. Tvardovsky, K. Simonov, prose by M. Gorky, M. Sholokhov, A. Fadeev, songs to the words of V. Lebedev-Kumach, etc.
The ideal of man in religion
In addition to culture, art, the ideal of man is represented in all religions of the world. Common to religious teachings is love for one's neighbor, the victory of good over evil, truth over falsehood and light over darkness. A person should profess these values. But each religion has its own ideas about the ideal. Let's dwell on this in more detail.
Christianity
The ideal person in this religion corresponds to the image of Jesus Christ. The Christian's virtues are kindness, meekness, humility. A person who professes the Christian faith strives for God, and therefore fulfills his will, tries to keep peace in his soul, to build friendly relations with family and friends, not to harm anyone.
Islam
According to Muslims, an ideal person should drive away sinful thoughts, do good deeds, strive for knowledge, be kind, humble, patient and clean. Also, a true believer does not smoke, does not drink alcohol, and does not gamble.
Buddhism
Here Buddha is considered the ideal of a person, who was originally an ordinary person but was able to achieve enlightenment (Nirvana). Followers of Buddhism believe that one can approach this state by engaging in spiritual practices and doing good deeds. In Islam and Christianity, the ideal of man is unattainable.
Hinduism
Followers of this doctrine believe that ideal life can be achieved only by freeing oneself from karma - the cycle of events, births and deaths in which a person is. Having become free, the soul reunites with one of the deities or remains on its own. Yoga helps to achieve liberation faster. Only a select few are capable of true freedom. It remains for ordinary mortals to purify karma (prayers, good deeds) in order to be born more successfully in the next life than in this one.
The ideal of modern man
It is not possible to accurately determine the ideal of modern man. Our time is quite complex and contradictory in terms of values, moral norms, permissions and prohibitions.
Today it is “not fashionable” to be highly moral, to build one's life in accordance with spiritual values and lofty ideals. Pragmatism, a thirst for consumption, a desire to get pleasure and not make efforts come to the fore.
Modern society makes high demands on a person. Today you just need to look in the latest fashion, have a super-prestigious job, and be successful in business. Anyone who does not try to reach career heights causes confusion.
At the same time, it is still impossible to call everyone living on Earth inveterate pragmatists. A significant number of people read fiction, attends churches, does charity work, practices downshifting. It seems that the ideal of a modern person has not yet been formed, but I want to believe that this will happen in the near future.
All people strive to get something better and more than they have on this moment... This is not surprising, because if you do not want more, you can assume that life is empty and uninteresting. After all, only goals and dreams make each of us move forward. Now I want to talk about what an ideal life is and what are its criteria.
Terminology
Initially, you need to understand what exactly will be discussed further. So, How can you understand this term for yourself? If you believe explanatory dictionary, then the ideal is the highest goal of aspirations, activities of a single person or group of people. The ideal is what everyone strives for. But the next question immediately arises: are there any criteria for this concept as such? It is safe to say that there is no objective interpretation in this case. Ideal is a subjective term, that is, personal, special. Indeed, for one person, the ideal is one thing, and for another, something completely different.
How the concept of an ideal life is formed
We need to start with the fact that today the ideal life is the product that modern magazines, TV shows or movies serve us. For many people, the unattainable peak is the red carpet, expensive outfits and decorations, exclusive cars, yachts and huge estates. But is it really so? In order to understand what the ideal is for an individual person, you must first of all listen to yourself, your “I”. After all, it often happens that the image ideal life they are not even created by celebrities, but by close relatives, most often by their parents. After all, they want to see their child as a medic, firefighter or banker. But is this ideal for the child himself? Not always. And as a result, the visible ideal life, even if it is just before our eyes, does not bring any pleasure and spiritual satisfaction to an adult, and all because once the criteria for achieving success were set incorrectly.
About setting criteria
An ideal life is that image of the future that a person has created for himself, regardless of the opinions of relatives, friends or other influential personalities. This is what the soul wants, the nature of a person, and not his immediate environment. To understand what you really want from life, you just need to listen to yourself. After all, a person does not always need a highly paid job for happiness. It is enough to do what brings real pleasure. No wonder they say that best job- this is a hobby for which they also pay extra.
Ideal creation rules
In connection with the above, I would like to highlight a few simple ones, but important rules, which should be followed when creating your ideal life.
- You need to listen only to yourself and your heart.
- The opinion of others is not important. Even if it is the desires of the closest people. Life is given to a person once, and you need to live it as your heart desires.
- The most valuable thing is not material at all. This should not be forgotten. After all, there is even a saying: "the rich also cry."
- And the main rule is that there are essentially no rules.
Summing up a small summary, I would like to note: in order to achieve your ideal, you need to work hard and hard, not being distracted by stupidity. After all, all the most valuable is obtained through self-improvement and the transformation of the world around us into something good, bright and kind.
A little about ideal people
It is also important to remember that concepts such as the ideal life and the ideal person are inseparable. If you are going to achieve your ideal in life, you also need to decide on what an ideal person should be: what he should have and what he should know and be able to do. Again, this raises the question of the material and the spiritual: this must be strictly differentiated. Generally speaking, the ideal person is the person who tries to do good without demanding anything in return. Do not forget that Buddhist monks are often called ideal people today: they are alien to the desire for material wealth.
Perfect family
And of course, I want to talk a little about what an ideal family life should be. What is important for this? No one will argue that you need to have your own home, money in order to give birth and put children on their feet. But still, this is not the most important thing. Indeed, in family relationships there must be love. But in this word, everyone is already putting something of their own, special. One thing is for sure: a family will be strong if people value each other, give in and think not only about themselves (which is also important), but also about their loved ones. "Treat people as you would like them to treat you" - this rule also works in family life... And good, kind people always achieve a lot together, including material well-being.
And as a small conclusion, I would like to note that an ideal life is exactly what a person desires for himself with his soul. In this case, it is important to listen to your "I", casting aside the opinion of even the most dear and close people. After all, only the person himself can live his ideal life, and not someone else. Do not forget about this.
