Sometimes we understand that they are overhauled that the same life that we have - we are not strongly satisfied with us. There can be a lot of reasons for this: they may fail our relationship, maybe the work of which we do, can have the people who have to deal with, and maybe such that as a match will break into the brain the idea that everything is around - This is not what we really need.
But regardless of the reasons that encourage you to change, you can start everything again, I first clarify and defining landmarks and plan for changing yourself and your life. I sincerely hope that these 15 steps Will help you start a new life and change yourself.
Step 1. Determine the direction of movement and your motivation.
Your life is always a movement to a certain purpose, regardless of whether you are aware of this purpose or not. Your former life that does not suit you could be subordinate to someone else's false goal, which contradicted your inner nature, your nature, your desires and your values. For example, you were in the relationship that you really were not needed or got a job that you were confused, or communicated with people who were completely strangers to you.
Now you can determine on what trajectory you move, now you yourself are the owner of your life path. Use the correct motivation. Proceed from that "what am I going to?" And not from "Why am I running?" Escape from anything is not useful motivation. Avoiding unpleasant feelings does not solve real problems. Emotions tend to follow you anywhere. Therefore, you will have to deal with them before you start a truly new life.
How to develop a life strategy
Step 2. Free yourself from gravity loss or defeat
Often to start all rebeling us pushing serious life events. Divorce, parting, collapse of career plans, business breaking, loss of work, health condition. All this imposes a serious emotional imprint and can be a source of constant stress, experiences, anxiety or even depression. You need to understand what to make serious solutions having such a luggage, the point is very dangerous.
If a life event made you experience deep and strong emotions, then you need the time so that everything calms down. This gap can be reduced if you work your experiences using within one or several sessions.
Step 3. Examine your life
For the success of your company at the beginning of a new life, it is not enough to know where you need to move. It is also important to clearly know and clearly understand how you do your start. Imagine that you are going to make a powerful jump into the water, but you jump from a very slippery shore. You spend the strength and energy on a powerful jump, but at the crucial moment sculp and everything goes to the ride.
So that in your history does not happen to study your last life (it will also be useful to pass express Test "Life Analysis"), write down on paper and study your habits, your past models of behavior in different life situations (for example, how do you deal with difficulties or react to unexpected possibilities; how much you manage to follow your decisions, etc.).
Surely in the process of studying your past life and your behavior, you will notice a lot of things that would not like to notice that it will cause you a rejection and internal resistance. But this is exactly what should pay attention to first.
"Darkness of low truths we are more expensive to us a towering deception," said Alexander Sergeevich Pushkin. What is - "Low Truths"?
They know what you know, but what to know, and even more so to hear others, it is unpleasant. What is driven from yourself. What demands to think, makes feel uncomfortable. And in general - grow. The railing deception does not contribute to growth. "Ryaba chicken" is a film about low truths. I think so many do not accept it.
Why didn't Chaadaeva accepted why he was announced crazy? Other and today it is categorically denied. Although he was largely right. But he spoke of "low truths", which caused a sense of discomfort, which was not accepted to speak. No one has yet been planted in a crazy house for the "elevator deception." And for "low truths" suffered enough. As a rule, it is for them.
And so not only in Russia - no one in the world needs frightening truth. She needs to hide it. To know her a few and not allowed the rest to her ..
Konchalovsky A., Low truths, M., "Collection" Top Secret ", 1999
Step 4. Examine Your Values
Before making major and serious decisions about what your new life will be, you should analyze our own vitality. If you know that you are most important for you, then on the basis of your values, it will be easier for you to make the right decisions on how to start a new life and change yourself.
Take a sheet of paper and write down everything on it, what you believe, all you consider the main and important in life, in relationships between people, what things are forced to think deeply or inspire. Look at what you do in life, on what you like to do and ask yourself a simple question: "Why?", "For what it is?". Received answers can open you completely unexpected faces of your personality.
You can also consider several people (it can be alive and familiar people people, famous personalities or historical characters) that you admire and ask yourself: What do I respect them most? Why? How can it play in my own life?
Step 5. Decide which big changes you want to do
For some people, start a "new life" can mean a cardinal change: moving to another city or other countries, a complete update of social connections, a change in the professional field, etc. For others, it can mean small but significant changes, such as liberation From old habits or models of behavior and focus on the development of a new lifestyle. Regardless of your desire, make sure that you clearly understand how big changes you want to do.
Find out that in your life requires changes. For example, is there what makes you unhappy or dissatisfied? Or you can decide - to change me every aspect of my life, or would it be more appropriate to focus on one or two areas? Remember that changes (especially when they are held without support from the side) is always a difficult process, therefore, to achieve success, start with small and gradually move upstairs.
Step 6. Create an image of your new future.
Make one useful exercise that will help you find out what goals and tasks to put and what changes should be done. In addition, it will give you the necessary motivation and will strengthen your intention to change.
Imagine a certain point in the future. Let this moment have an accurate date and time. Imagine that in this future, you got a magical power to achieve all your hopes and dreams. You exactly who want to be.
Imagine it is so detailed as possible. Who surrounds you? Where do you live? What are you doing? What does it look like? Enable as many details as possible to create the maximum clear image. One of my client introduced himself that he was a successful designer, he had his own studio, interesting orders come from all over the world and he travels a lot on other countries, making interesting and amazing things (in reality after a couple of years he really founded his studio and became Receive foreign orders).
Now think about your strengths, abilities and skills that this image of the future becomes reality. What do you already have? What areas require refinement? Be honest with yourself. For example, if you want to be a famous musician, then perhaps you already have musical abilities, or at least love for music. You will also need stronger thinking to work on improvements.
Using your imagination to create the image of the future, make this image achievable and positive. Obviously, you cannot become a superhero or owner of any supernormalities and super opportunities. Here younger thinking that attracts you in such a superhero. His desire to justice and protect the weak? Then you can choose a profession for yourself, which contributes to the fulfillment of this mission. Or do you like the ability to make quick and unmistakable solutions? Then imagine how you should train your thinking to achieve this level.
Step 7. Place Clear and Specific Goals
Famous sage Lao Tzu said: the path to a thousand miles begins with one step. And your journey to a new life should also begin with concrete steps. The formulation of clear personal goals will help you confidently move forward and keep a course on building a new life.
Think where you see yourself after 6 months, year, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, 30 years or more.
Set your goals. Make sure that these are correct goals, that is, they are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and have a clear time to achieve.
Start with the definition of your big goal, and then scroll it into smaller. Then disperse smaller goals on the tasks.
For example, if you decide that you want to find your business and make it a source of your income - this is your common goal. To achieve it, you will need to achieve smaller goals. For example, the first thing you should contact a professional who will help you find a matter that matches your destination (for my customers this service is included in the program frame «» ), Then you need to make a marketing plan and conduct a study of the target audience. Examples of tasks here can be: creating a test product, a study of the needs of people and their willingness to take advantage of this product, studying competitors and their products, market analysis, etc. These tasks you can crush even further, for example, put yourself a task to communicate with potential customers or go to the places where products are sold (services) similar to that product that you are going to give you.
Step 8. Determine the necessary internal changes
In order for your new life project with success, you should think about what internal changes you should be in your own personality. In other words, you need to determine who you should be to successfully do what will allow you to have another life.
Let's look at what it can be internal changes.
It can be changes in your physical condition. You may decide that in a new life you must log in with a new body. You may want to get rid of excess weight or increase your physical training level, get a more sports and developed body. You should not forget that excess weight depends on 2 main reasons: the gluing of the body and the low level of vital activity.
I recommend that you start with an increase in the level of physical activity and do it gradually, increasing the load for a long time (at least 45 days) so that it goes into the habit. You may need consultant assistance to develop an optimal program and change the beliefs and mental plants that interfere with changing the body.
It will be easier to change the appearance. You can choose your own style yourself or consult with a stylist. Buy new clothes, change the hairstyle. Remember that how you dress up and how you think affects how you feel and how others perceive you. Studies have proven that when you dress so that it coincides with your goals, you are most likely to achieve them.
Changes in worldview. This is about the well-known expression "you can withdraw a girl from the village, but you can not remove the village from the girl." If you do not want to be this most notorious "girl," then you have to be thoroughly worn about how you think and how you perceive the world.
Think over what convictions should be the personality of which you want to become like this personality should perceive peace, people, events, relationships. What principles and rules it should be guided. Explore the list of out ,to get about the absolute new look at the world.
Change your own consciousness - the process is not easy. The strength of habit, old templates and inertia thinking can make a rod of your personality. Within the program «» we carry out clients in order for a person to see his true nature and gained the present I. After this process, any changes in consciousness with any psychotechnic pass are much faster and easier.
Emotional changes. So that your new life has been prosperous you need to learn to let your past. This includes the ability to forgive. Forgiveness frees you from the burden of past injuries and pain. You forgive others not for them, but for yourself. Studies show that forgiveness gives you to feel less angry and alarmed. Learn also to take lesions and losses as part of life, skip them through the "sieve" awareness and release. And you feel a huge relief.
Change your approach to life using gratefulness. Learn to thank life for any of its manifestations, remember that difficulties on your life path are trials, not punishment. Take them as well as everything is good that happens to you.
Studies have shown that the practice of gratitude makes you feel happier and more satisfied with life; It will help you to master flexibility and adaptability to changes; It will strengthen your physical health and sleep quality, and can help you overcome emotional injury. Practitioner thanks for 5 minutes every day 1 or more times.
Step 9. Recognize relations with people
The world is people, and life is a relationship between people. It is difficult to start a new life if there are "toxic" people who pull you down. In some cases, it is necessary to "cut" such people from their lives in the interests of their own security. In other cases, you can simply stop spending time with them, and you will feel happier, removing them from your life.
Interpersonal relationships are crucial for your functioning and improvement as a person. Numerous studies show that we strongly affect people with whom we interact, so starting a new life, take it into it only those people who are important to you and will give you love and respect you deserve.
One of my client, deciding to start a new life and open his own business, faced numerous difficulties, the reasons for which, as it turned out, was that it was so-called. "Friends" were people not prone to independent actions and liability. They are accustomed to living a measured, stable and sad life and communicating with them my client involuntarily received a feedback by those parts of his personality who resisted the risks and dangers of entrepreneurial activity. In practice, this led to the fact that "business is not Por". My client took a serious rethinking the role of these people in his life in order for the situation to change and his work began to grow and develop.
Very well illustrates this situation next joke:
Old fucking in hell Three boilers with sinners. In practice, he is sent to a young church.
Young decent. Old damn trains him:
- So, see - the first boiler. It must be carefully monitored. Jews are sitting here. If at least one gets out - everyone will drag for themselves ...
Second boiler. Here you can look at the lid of the input. There are Americans here, they have everyone for themselves, one will run away - not scary, it will not waste anyway.
You can not watch the third boiler at all. Here the Russians are sitting. If at least one to the top will come out - the rest themselves will catch and put on the hottest place.
Clean your space from people:
- communicating with which you feel empty or constantly feel stress
- which constantly criticize or condemn you. And you feel how you can not do anything correctly when you are next to them.
- who in the face or for the eyes talk about you bad things
- next to which you do not feel safe, sharing our hopes, thoughts, needs or feelings.
The elimination of unhealthy social relations will help you more confident and repeatedly move forward to happy and healthy life. Formation of a favorable social environment that does not include your past habits are critical to ensuring your successful path. Surround yourself with people next to which you will grow as a person and develop in the direction of a new life.
Step 10. Start a new financial life.
Regardless of whether you just graduated from a university or work for 30 years, never happens too sooner or too late to start your financial life again. Perhaps you want to start saving on significant life goals, such as buying a house or a comfortable old age. Or perhaps you want to reconsider your habits to spend money to stop soaring to the left or right. Or want to invest in investment. Take a look at your goals and decide how to manage your money to get what you need.
Try first to get rid of all your debts. Debts - they are from the same life. In the new life they have no place. One of my clients, after our work with her, got rid of 90% of his debts in less than 6 months. If you have more debts than you can pay, then the current legislation allows you to implement a personal bankruptcy procedure. Perhaps it will be for you a suitable option.
Then analyze your finances. Structure income and expenses, start the budget. See where you can reduce "leaks" (for example, buying unnecessary things), and where you can get extra money (for example, selling things that you do not use through the service AVITO.ru). In any case, the budget will tell you good financial solutions.
Step 11. Talk to people
When you decide to start a new life, a very useful course may be a conversation with people who already live the life you want. This is useful because it can give you an idea of \u200b\u200bhow to get there. For example, if you want to discard boring fading work and do the job that you love and which you are interested in, then you just need to look for those people who have already made a business on your favorite and take, for example, they have interviews during which in detail Inspire about their road map. Perhaps one of these people agree to become a mentor for you on the way to a new life.
You can also ask people about difficult moments that may arise in your new life. You can captive illusions about a new career, new relationships, a new business or a new country. Understanding the smallest details that others tell you will allow you to avoid many errors and incorrect movements.
For example, you can dream to leave your boring work in Moscow and go to Bali, where life is paradise. If you communicate with people who already live there, then you can find things about which you do not know, for example, that it is incredibly expensive, unfriendly visa politics, difficulties with health care, difficulty with activities that requires concentration. Of course, this does not mean that you should not move, but these knowledge will help you better adapt to the realities of a new life.
Step 12. Get Support
The beginning of a new life can be a frightening perspective. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you and will be able to help you and support on your way. Knowing that you have sources of emotional support will help you feel much more stronger when you come across the realities of your new life.
If you do not have a family or reliable comrades who can support you, that is, it makes sense to look for such support in other places. It may be support in groups or communities for interests or even religious communities. Go to where people are free and openly communicate with each other and make new acquaintances.
Step 13. Check yourself
Large life changes that are needed to start a new life will require you seriously work, dedication and patience. This may be tense and frightening. Make sure you are ready for this. How are you feeling? What behavior is acceptable for you? Are you worried about something? Diary maintains you to understand your emotions and determine whether there are areas in which you need additional support or that require deep development.
The process of serious and deep changes in life is often able to cause a feeling of depression. You can start to be sad, stop enjoying some things, feel anxious or guilt, experience internal devastation or hopelessness. In this case, quickly and painlessly you can help . Work on this technology allows you to eliminate negative emotional sensations for one session.
Step 14. Make the necessary changes
The new life will not mean that difficulties, obstacles and problems will disappear forever. The beginning of a new career does not mean that you will never feel undervalued or undeclared. Moving to a new city or a new country does not mean that you will never be bored at home. When you have problems, admit them as such and make what you need to allow them and adapt to the situation.
You may encounter a lot of difficulties on your way to a new life. For example, you maybe you wanted to make a military career to follow your values \u200b\u200bof ministry and honor, but learned that do not come up to health to enroll in a military school. You could consider it as a failure and the collapse of your dreams, or you could return to the "drawing board" and determine whether there are other things you can do and it will also allow you to express these basic values.
Step 15. Work with the consultant
Even if you do not think that something in the process of building your new life is "wrong", it is useful to contact a consultant or personal trainer, especially when it comes to serious change. The fact is that such a difficult process how to start a new life and change yourself, may contain a variety of mistakes and hidden interference that can be visible only from the side. A good consultant is able to give you high-quality feedback and save from empty spending time, forces and resources.
Another point is that deep personality changes are always accompanied by stress and internal resistance (self-use). Sometimes they are so strong that their hands fall and disappears every desire to move forward. With the help of a consultant, you can work and get rid of internal fears blocking changes. The consultant can also help you learn useful ways of thinking and responding to calls.
Appeal to the consultant is a sure sign that you love yourself and take care of yourself enough to get help when it is necessary and useful, and this is good news. Personal Change Consultant plays for you the same role that a dentist for your teeth: you eliminate minor problems and difficulties before they breed catastrophic consequences.
Start a new life today!
After reading this article, you can decide: "OK, it's all great! I will definitely take these recommendations to note and even begin to follow some of them. " But the fact is that the process of change is a system of system, where everything is clearly connected with each other and every step affects the other. It is important not to make a mistake here.
Want to know how to start a new life in which you will be self-realization, high meaning, activity, motivation, strength, leadership, new discoveries, energy, exciting changes, interesting game, new horizons, pleasure from the living point, clear understanding of your own path, lack of self-use and uncertainty , Coldness of intention and action? And at the same time you do not make rude mistakes and avoid multiple "pitfalls", and the path itself will take several months instead of decades.
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